Will having sex stop the divorce?
posted Saturday,
3:44 pm
my husband and i are legally separated. if we have sex, will it stop the divorce
My husband and I are legally separated and we are talking about having sex. Neither one of us believe in premarital sex and we are thinking about just being friends with benefits. Will this stop our divorce?
Just to add a little something……I want the divorce. I dont love him we are just both in the situation where sex shouldnt be with just anyone. he wants me to stay
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no
No…but it will make things awkward.
yes
No.
No
NO, and if you "accidentally" get pregnant, that will not stop it either, so please don’t go that route either.
no, it wont. i wouldnt wanna stay with a man who didnt want me. not sure if thats what you want or not, just saying…
No, it will not stop the divorce. However, not having sex may have caused the divorce.
in some states it does…
because if you are having sex after you file for divorce, it is considered consumating your marriage.
But if you can’t stand him and getting divorced why have sex with him again?
No, my ex-husband and I had sex for a while after he left. It’s just that we were familiar in that way. It does make it MUCH harder to move on and may get shattered hopes up. Don’t do it, sex isn’t’ the only thing that makes a relationship last, if it did, he wouldn’t be my ex.
i thought if you went for a divorce and the courts found out you were still sleeping together that they would not grant the divorce, as it would be a waste of time to the courts, because if you are still sleeping together maybe you will get back together.i dunno . but why would you still sleep with your ex, it is stupid.
no.
First of all, Why are you getting a divorce ? You are telling us that you don’t want to be close to each other, but you want to have sex together. How close is that ? is this make up sex ? Or is it the last sex before the divorce. Girl you don’t make since at all. You sound to shallow to me.
If you’re asking from a legal standpoint, of course not. If you’re talking from an emotional standpoint, that depends on you and your husband.
No.
no don’t do it… sex doesn’t change the REAL problems in the relationship… My Ex and I had amazing sex, we had no problems in that department but we were two different people that wanted different things in life and we are still attracted to each other very much and could just go right back into it but we both know that it’s a bad idea and the only thing that kept us together was the sex itself and it brings back old feelings etc… so don’t do it, you are asking for more trouble. The problems that are causing the divorce needs to be fixed for the divorce to not happen.
Depends on the reason for the divorce in the first place. If your husband left because he wasn’t getting any "sex" and was unhappy, then maybe. But there is a difference between sex and intimacy. You can have sex without intimacy, and you can have intimacy without sex. It is the intimacy that is more important in a strong and successful marriage, then the sex just happens as a beautiful connection to strengthen this.
My answer is not based on a 1 year marriage. I had a 7 year marriage (and 12 year relationship) with no intimacy and a husband who demanded sex constantly and obviously that didn’t last. I now am in a 4 1/2 year marriage, with a wonderful intimate connection with my husband, and couldn’t be happier (neither could he).
Sex doesn’t solve problems and it doesn’t save relationships unless that is all the relationship is based on. If you feel you have to have sex to save the relationship, then it is based on something too shallow to be long term anyway.
No, don’t do it. Cut your losses, cut him loose and find someone else to hook up with. Being intimate just complicates an emotional event.
No, it will just make things more complicated. Besides, if you both can have sex you both can stay together.
No it won’t stop a divorce. Why the heck would you want to give yourself to someone who doesn’t want to be married to you anymore anyhow? That’s totally insulting in a way, to want to be with you intimately, yet with no strings attached, after they already were. You can’t go back now. Besides that I think you’d be ultimately be furious with him, when the divorce doesn’t stop, yet he’s coming over to knock himself off a piece, lil 2am booty call, but then acts as though it means nothing to him at all, after your life together. All you will feel like is just a piece of a$$. And well that, that’s going to be hard to overcome.
spit, don;t swallow
I think that this would mess with his head more than yours. You seem to be ok with the divorce and ok with the sex but for most people sex is not just a physical action it is a very strong emotional experience as well.
I had a friend who’s girlfriend broke up with him but continued to have sex occasionally and it really messed him up.
So i think it would make things akward and harder to deal with, i think it has equal chances of stopping a divorce or it going ahead but either possibility will be worse for it.