Why are you supposed to save yourself until marriage? I am doing so but really don’t understand the reason why?

3 Comments

1. Lilyta says:

   September 25, 2009 at 8:35 pm

   the say "save yourself until marriage" doesn’t only go to women, but men as well, since sex is a connection of both man and woman and not only woman.

   sex itself is part of human nature to reproduce and share each others’ therefore marriage is where it makes sex clean (in meaning), with concern on the right way it should be carry out.

   sex isn’t addiction, if were used the right way. sins are.

   if sex started to be misused through outside of marriage line and once ppl have sex without including strong reason like marriage and generate offspring , chances are, they can always take sex less seriously that as time goes by, sex can always be toys that they can easily have multiple sex partners in a certain period without worries.

   key point is, the beginning. once it begins, it flows. same like drugging, smoking, alcohols etc. sins are addictive. true, there are number of people who can maintain "just once", "just a bit" after doing so and there are those who can stop after some time have been committing it. but they are very few compared to large majority others who have done it assuming to be around 85%-95% or more

   stop and repent from pleasurable but destructive deeds is like recovering from diseases. the more destructive doings we are in, the harder it is to be recovered, like how sickness is harder to be cured when it has reached a higher risk level. chances are there, but isn’t as much potential as prevention.

   preventing may be hard, but what are good things without going through hard times to get it. hard effort is only a while to make things easier at end. in fact, it’s way harder if not to prevent. true, doesn’t mean one will get knocked if he cross the road while the traffic signal isn’t red. but won’t it be more security assured if he has gotten used to not to cross recklessly?

   it is a gift that you managed to save it all these while as what’s left is to keep it consistent. meanwhile, for others who didn’t manage to save, it takes a change and there are still chances therefore no reason to give up.

   many says "try before you buy". but if there are that many trying before buying, how come there are rises in divorce and unhappy marriage?

   trying cars is just about driving, but trying human (through sex) is where ppl play with fire. human aren’t cars or objects and that’s where God values our existence. sex isn’t where nothing will happen afterwards, but leads to a biological change and a very high potential of another human’s existence- a human being, a life.

   unwanted pregnancies, deadbeat dads, abortion, child labor and babies trashing are enough to explain.

   not to forget STDs, HIVs and others.

   one of many ways to destroy life is the rise of fornications and promiscuities. It is, have been satan’s job to destroy humanity beginning from one, small thing that we often mistaken it as petty.

   sorry if this may be a bit too long but hope it helps.
2. celosa says:

   September 25, 2009 at 8:35 pm

   ya it is pretty hard to come up with a reason since it makes sense to you but u dont really know why.
   well i think its becuz God wants you to be pure and give your ENTIRE self to your future husband, which means emotionally and physically..and if uve bin with other men in the past then your not "pure" or whutever. plus i think its a major reward when you wait THAT long for the right man and so has he, you know?
   hope it helped ha
3. [Grace];;* says:

   September 25, 2009 at 8:35 pm

   in this day and age there really isnt much point, most people dont hardly get married liek they used to about 40 years ago. the man you meet probably wont be a virgin and you might feel unconfortable x