I have been with my husband for 15 years…we dated for 7 years, married for 7 years and have been separated and living apart for the past year. We have a 4 year old daughter. He is living several states away and has a job that involves travel every day of the week. About 2 years into our marriage we had a miscarriage and following that my husband had an affair with a married co-worker. When I found out it devastated me and I went into a downward spiral. About 5 months later I became pregnant unexpectedly. We agreed we loved each other and wanted to work it out. But we struggled over the next couple of years with trust issues, depression, jealousy, doubt. Last year I found out my husband was having a 2nd affair with another married coworker. I angrily confronted him and packed his bags and he left. The past year he has progressed greatly in his affair with this woman. I have told him I love him and am sorry for the past and want to save our marriage and family. He has rejected me. Help
I know his behavior is wrong. I know my daughter and I deserve better..I just want better from him. Infidelity was always something I feared because I did not thing I could handle that. My husband was my best friend and the first affair devastated me beyond belief. I know I was wrong in not having a forgiving spirit and for holding a grudge and being angry and depressed. And he did continue to have problems with honesty. He would lie about anything to avoid conflict. And every time it was a setback in trust. The thing is, we both have made mistakes. Why can’t we both find a way to forgive each other and move past this, especially for our child’s sake. I know he loved me…which is why it is so hard to understand or make sense of this. He is so infatuated with his mistress that he puts them not only before our marriage but before his own daughter. He bailed out on his weekend to come and see his child to stay with his mistress and lied he was at home sick. I know it sounds hopeless.
Posts Tagged ‘trust issues’
How can I save this marriage?
Thursday, February 4th, 2010Used my husbands credit card w/o his permission-he found out. How can I save my marriage and earn his trust?
Saturday, December 26th, 2009I am paying the debt myself and did not make any late payments. Used it for last 2 months w/o his permission or knowledge. This is second time in our relationship (7 years together-1married) that I have lied about money. Now he doesn’t know if he can stay married b/c of trust issues. Please give advice -
Just want to clarify that this is first time using credit card – doesn’t make it any better but wanted to clarify that. The last trust issue was about bills getting paid on time.
How to save a relationship with too many past lies?
Wednesday, August 5th, 2009I’ve been in a relationship for almost 4 years now, and have been living together for the past year. There was a few "mistakes" made and a few too many hiding things…lies… We both want this to work, but don’t know how to fix it. He’s got a few trust issues from past relationships…how can we go on fixing this so that we can be happy again before the wrong move is made.
There is also children involved too (i have 2 and he has 1 we don’t have any together, but my lil one has known his since a baby)