I found out a week ago that my wife of 7 years is having an affair with a co worker. I have suspected it but she has denided everything. He left a message on her cell phone is how i found out. Then she has came clean. The day after Christmas she tells me that she is moving out and wants to call it quits. We have 2 children toghether and she has 1 prior to us but he is still my son. i want to save my marriage even though she doesn’t. She is still seeing him and we are living together for another 6 weeks til she has money to move out. I have a little bit of time but unsure on what to do to make her see that she should stay. He have a beautiful home, great family, we don’t fight, money is not a problem. Some friends have said she is having a mid life crisis. She is 29 seeing a 20 year old kid who lives with his mom. Any advice would help. I love my wife and want to see her threw this. We have a good relationship. Feeling lost and confused any advice
also, she refuses any counceling. We have had many talks and the things that have gone wrong in our marriage . i told her that real happiness is right behind the door if she was willing to take a peak, if she likes what she see’s, open the door a little more and maybe one day step in. i’ve been showing her that they are being fixed, she says she is just tired and thinks leaving is the best. We agreed to wait to file for divorce until this summer. She is planning on getting an apartment 5 blocks away so we can share the kids.
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Need help to save my marriage?
Wednesday, March 10th, 2010How can I save this marriage?
Thursday, February 4th, 2010I have been with my husband for 15 years…we dated for 7 years, married for 7 years and have been separated and living apart for the past year. We have a 4 year old daughter. He is living several states away and has a job that involves travel every day of the week. About 2 years into our marriage we had a miscarriage and following that my husband had an affair with a married co-worker. When I found out it devastated me and I went into a downward spiral. About 5 months later I became pregnant unexpectedly. We agreed we loved each other and wanted to work it out. But we struggled over the next couple of years with trust issues, depression, jealousy, doubt. Last year I found out my husband was having a 2nd affair with another married coworker. I angrily confronted him and packed his bags and he left. The past year he has progressed greatly in his affair with this woman. I have told him I love him and am sorry for the past and want to save our marriage and family. He has rejected me. Help
I know his behavior is wrong. I know my daughter and I deserve better..I just want better from him. Infidelity was always something I feared because I did not thing I could handle that. My husband was my best friend and the first affair devastated me beyond belief. I know I was wrong in not having a forgiving spirit and for holding a grudge and being angry and depressed. And he did continue to have problems with honesty. He would lie about anything to avoid conflict. And every time it was a setback in trust. The thing is, we both have made mistakes. Why can’t we both find a way to forgive each other and move past this, especially for our child’s sake. I know he loved me…which is why it is so hard to understand or make sense of this. He is so infatuated with his mistress that he puts them not only before our marriage but before his own daughter. He bailed out on his weekend to come and see his child to stay with his mistress and lied he was at home sick. I know it sounds hopeless.
husband cheats but not want to talk after to save marriage?
Thursday, November 5th, 2009We have a 2 yr old kid, 16 yrs of marriage. Husb wanted a baby too, he refused any intimate relations with me after conceiving (breasfed 1 yr). He helped me in the house, shopping, is polite, had a job, but
we had no physical contact at all. He kind of loves the kid but
in a very old-style way; cold, doesnot read books to her or
take her to the park.
He asked me not to force or ask for bed time with him. He would help with the kid when ASKED,he said he was 10% an active father. I am full-time working mum, and toddler in childcare 5 h /day when not sick, and I spent mostly of time alone with kid, bcz husb not showing any interest. Now, he had interest in a co-worker, no Xmas presents for us, emotionally is detached from us, he told me about having prostitutes and wanting to leave me before having baby , to find his freedom, does not want me, will send me money for kid. Affair is over, he is depressed, no job,
he does not want to talk, to leave, to save marriage. What can I do?