fooling around with her best friend right in your own home? She’s devastated, hurt, and almost hates you, and you want to change and show her that you will never ever do it again. How would you prove this to her, what would you say to make her trust you again? Hypothetical of coarse…
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Men… what would you do to save your marriage after your wife caught you?
Friday, February 12th, 2010How can I save this marriage?
Thursday, February 4th, 2010I have been with my husband for 15 years…we dated for 7 years, married for 7 years and have been separated and living apart for the past year. We have a 4 year old daughter. He is living several states away and has a job that involves travel every day of the week. About 2 years into our marriage we had a miscarriage and following that my husband had an affair with a married co-worker. When I found out it devastated me and I went into a downward spiral. About 5 months later I became pregnant unexpectedly. We agreed we loved each other and wanted to work it out. But we struggled over the next couple of years with trust issues, depression, jealousy, doubt. Last year I found out my husband was having a 2nd affair with another married coworker. I angrily confronted him and packed his bags and he left. The past year he has progressed greatly in his affair with this woman. I have told him I love him and am sorry for the past and want to save our marriage and family. He has rejected me. Help
I know his behavior is wrong. I know my daughter and I deserve better..I just want better from him. Infidelity was always something I feared because I did not thing I could handle that. My husband was my best friend and the first affair devastated me beyond belief. I know I was wrong in not having a forgiving spirit and for holding a grudge and being angry and depressed. And he did continue to have problems with honesty. He would lie about anything to avoid conflict. And every time it was a setback in trust. The thing is, we both have made mistakes. Why can’t we both find a way to forgive each other and move past this, especially for our child’s sake. I know he loved me…which is why it is so hard to understand or make sense of this. He is so infatuated with his mistress that he puts them not only before our marriage but before his own daughter. He bailed out on his weekend to come and see his child to stay with his mistress and lied he was at home sick. I know it sounds hopeless.
Can I Save My Marriage? We’re separated. She reunited with ex-bfriend and says we’re incompatible. HELP!!?
Saturday, December 19th, 2009we just had a babygirl – our first child. she is from europe and I am from the U.S. The last 4 months of her pregnancy (during which we were fighting and sometimes not even on speaking terms) she spent in her home country and during that time her ex-bf intervened and played the supporting role and now she and he are "together"…I am desperate and am seeking advice as to how to put our marriage back together. she will not go to counciling but has agreed to read some articles I have found on saving marriages. her claim is that she and I are incompatible because we rationalize about things differently and make decisions differently…that our lifestyles are too different but we’ve only been married for two years. she says her ex gives her security but this is the same guy who while they were dating for 10 years, slept with her best friend and her sister. All I want are my wife and daughter back. she is standing her ground and says she doesnt love me anymore but there was a reason she left him for me. I have to believe there is a way and that deep down she still loves me! I don’t want to give up. can someone please lend me some advice? thank you very much,
james
How do I save my marriage when the odds all seem stacked against me?
Friday, October 9th, 2009Well I love my wife and I know that inside her she loves me but there all kinds of things against me, for example my little brother who sat there and seen all of the things happening is now pursuing her with no regard to me and she thinks that it would make her happy, she has a best friend giving her nothing but negative advice, and family doing the same as well, I love her and have since the moment I saw her, we have an 18mth old little girl and all I want to do is save my marriage, she knows that by talking to me she would come back so she got a restraining order and filed for divorce, all of which I believe were outside influences, I need help I can’t live without her.
What should we do? Keep trying to work it out and save the marriage, or divorce and save ourselves?
Wednesday, August 26th, 2009I tend to run away from responsibility, Ive struggled with depression all my life. Knowing this, my best friend, against my pleading, fell for me and talked me into dating her and then into marrying her. I mistaked "not knowing what I want" for "I can handle anything" and we married. I told her before we even started dating I knew a few things, like I dont want kids (she does) and I dont want to live in this area (she does). Didnt faze her. She was driven to do good things back then, plus she was hot. Since we got married 5 years ago, weve degraded drastically. Im sure my depression has brought her down. Shes given up changing the world and shes gained a lot of weight. I was frugal and never had any debt before we married. Now were ,000 in debt and we live on her parents property. Ive never done the manly thing before. What should we do? Keep trying to work it out and save the marriage, or divorce and save ourselves? No one in her family has ever divorced and no one in mine hasn’t.
I should add that we are both in our mid 20’s, working and going to school.
Also that my relationships before her tended to die out when I stopped calling, a tribute to my lack of manliness, fear of responsibility and history of depression.
She had no romantic relationships prior to me, which leads me to believe she persists in loving me out of guilt for wasting her love on me initially.
We do not have children yet.