So, if i did mess up and flirt online, how do i get him to stop the divorce proceeding?
posted Thursday,
5:52 am
He just found this out this week. His first reaction was the D word. No counciling, nothing. He’s out getting a lawyer right now. I know why i did it. My husband hasn’t been emotionally involved in a long time. His work is difficult and secretive, so when he comes home he’s just emotionally withdrawn. I did it because someone showed me attention, thought i was pretty. It makes me sick. That i hurt my husband, and threw away my marraige for a ego trip. He says that I destroyed the trust and he will never be able to reestablish that. Always wondering if I was lying. I do want to work something out, even if it’s just so we don’t part as enemeys. HELP!
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OK all you did was flirt online right? You didn’t meet this person face-to-face right? Your husband found out that you flirted with someone else and now he wants a divorce? OK honestly that doesn’t sound right to me at all. I can see if you had an affair and covered it up. I think things are being blown way out of proportion. Ask him the real question, ask him what is going on? It may be that he has something to hide himself. Or it could be that his "work" is stressing him out and he needs someone to vent his frustration with. You being his wife and the closest person you are getting the backlash. Here is my suggestion, talk, get him to tell you the real deal. If he keeps bringing up your online flirting as the "real" issues" then there is the chance that he may be doing something that he is feeling very guilty about.
Give it some time. He’ll cool down and then you can discuss it more rationally.
SMACK him and sit him down and tell him everything you just said..of coarse your flirting on line… hes not taking care of his house..this is his fault to
Sounds like he was looking for a way out anyway. You didn’t do the best thing but if he really cared like he should that shouldn’t be the first thing that comes out of his mouth. What has he been doing with his free time away from you? If he does leave you work on getting yourself together before you go on to someone else. If he stays still work on getting yourself together. You deserve much more and stay away from the internet freaks. Good Luck
I think your husband left the marriage a long time ago. He just needed a good excuse to give you the boot. There isn’t anything that you can do but move on with your life, cause he already has done it with his
It sounds like there is more going on with your husband being upset than you flirting with someone online. Alot of people do turn to the internet for attention. Remind your husband that even though you were talking on the internet and flirting that you are still home with him and love him.
Tell him you know it was wrong, and tell him you love him and why you feel that it happend and from now on youll come to him instead of someone else.
Being willing to show him, give him acess to your passwords offer to go to counseling but in return he needs to be able to give you time that you need with him as well. good luck.
Sounds to me like he just needed an excuse to get a divorce. And you gave him one. A pretty petty one at that. I think maybe he’s been wanting out for a long time and just didn’t have the nerve to tell you. that’s why hes been so secretive and not there for you.