Comments on: Please help me STOP my DIVORCE?

By: Miss Zora

Miss Zora — Fri, 02 Jul 2010 00:07:57 +0000

Have you tried counseling? Seems like he is trying but is remembering what caused the rift and it’s bothering him enough to not want to get back together. Have you told him heart to heart that you are sorry and that you want your marriage to work (not just for the child, but for him too)? If he wants to file the papers, let him. He may be saying this to see what your response is, or just to make you hurt –like he did when you cheated. Try talking to him and see if he will agree to counseling.

By: Mel

Mel — Fri, 02 Jul 2010 00:07:57 +0000

Have you tried counseling? A mediator? Communicate with him, not with us. Tell him.
Good luck.

By: turtle

turtle — Fri, 02 Jul 2010 00:07:57 +0000

Have you 2 sought marriage counseling? It’s really up to him since you were the cheater. It’s nearly impossible to gain trust back again once you have cheated on someone who loves you. If he is willing to try, suggest marriage counseling and hope he is amenable. If he is not, then there’s no use knocking yourself out trying to get back with him. It will be months, if not years, before he will trust you again. Get the papers. Be a good girl and never do that again!

By: kate robo

kate robo — Fri, 02 Jul 2010 00:07:57 +0000

Have you spoke to him about how your feeling he might not be aware of your feelings and thats why he has filed for divorce.x

By: Average Joe

Average Joe — Fri, 02 Jul 2010 00:07:57 +0000

I am sorry but it sounds like the ball is in his court. All you can do is show him that you will never do this again. Let him know that his child needs a dad. In either case the power to prevent this divorce is not in your hands anymore. You lost that power when you had the affair.

By: Richard M. Johnston, Realtor

Richard M. Johnston, Realtor — Fri, 02 Jul 2010 00:07:57 +0000

I feel that he loves you but not enough for him to continue to be married to you. If you can both seek counceling with a specialist, maybe you can address the real issues of your problems. 2.5 years is a long time to keep things in limbo. I wish you guys the best.

By: the_silverfoxx

the_silverfoxx — Fri, 02 Jul 2010 00:07:57 +0000

that.s hy he filed for divorce. where you cheated on him as well you knew right from wrong being married and cheating dont go together this you know put the shoe on the other foot on cheating then you have your answer he knows you cheat again once this happens in a maggage it.s over fact he knows as well you to you broke a vow on your marrage to be faitful witch you wasnt dont blame no one but your self after all you brought this upon your self . in my opion?

By: ain't misbehaven

ain't misbehaven — Fri, 02 Jul 2010 00:07:57 +0000

Hopefully you can talk to your husband about how much you want to save the marriage..Maybe he feels the same way..But you need to be prepared for a divorce in case reason doesn’t work. It’s a matter of trust. Maybe after 21/2 yrs apart, he’ll be okay again.. Good luck

By: macmommagnum

macmommagnum — Fri, 02 Jul 2010 00:07:57 +0000

He no longer trusts you and does not want to try to – you could try and talk him in to counseling, but that is a long shot, as it has been over 2 years and he has had a long time to think about it.

By: lost man

lost man — Fri, 02 Jul 2010 00:07:57 +0000

the only thing you can do is to PROVE to him that you really want the family. use your heart and actions, let him feel that in his heart before it is too late, not by telling and keep telling.

guess he can’t let go on your mistake made, you need extra effort here.