Comments on: Need help to save my marriage? http://helpsaveamarriage.com/blog/need-help-to-save-my-marriage/336 Save A Marriage Tips Tue, 08 Nov 2011 13:55:29 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Lola http://helpsaveamarriage.com/blog/need-help-to-save-my-marriage/336/comment-page-1#comment-3669 Lola Wed, 10 Mar 2010 12:31:44 +0000 http://helpsaveamarriage.com/blog/need-help-to-save-my-marriage/#comment-3669 Well, apparrantly she is insecure. She maybe feels like she doesn't have enough flexibility in her life, she may be stressed about your kids, or, she made a huge mistake. Or, this is her way of ending the relationship. I am not sure of her motives. But, with this being the case, there are a few options you have. First of all, she is extremely willing to get out. Maybe you should let her have her space. Don't ask for a divorce, and if she asks for one, offer her to just move out for a few months. Allow her to have her own appartment. This may help her to clear her mind. And if all works well, you could end up moving in together again!Even go to couples therepy! Anything would help at this point. Also, let her know why you are angry and what you are feeling. Don't put pressure on her, but just tell her what you have on your mind. Offer her to do the same with you. Let her know that she can tell you anything, anything on her mind and you wont judge. That is what you can do to save the relationship. If you feel at all betrayed, you could have a divorce. I think this is the more sensable option. Face it, she cheated on you. There is no friendship bond there. She obviousley doesnt care enough to controll her actions. She was immiture and stupid to do that. Plus, if she is still with him, she apparrantly wants OUT! It is best for both you and the kids. They will thank you later! Nobody wants to hear fighting all the time. It can corrupt someone for life. Even if you dont want to face it, it is the right thing. Most people I know would file for devorce just because of pure anger and the feelings of betrayal. I see that you want to save the relationship, so do whatever you need to. But, like I said earlier, the affair may be because she is not getting what she wants at home. Just make sure you find out. Also, I wouldn't tell the kids if they are too young. They dont need to know any of this, because 'mommy' is still a good person, she just made a BIG mistake. That is all the advice I have, and good luck. Well, apparrantly she is insecure. She maybe feels like she doesn’t have enough flexibility in her life, she may be stressed about your kids, or, she made a huge mistake. Or, this is her way of ending the relationship. I am not sure of her motives. But, with this being the case, there are a few options you have.
First of all, she is extremely willing to get out. Maybe you should let her have her space. Don’t ask for a divorce, and if she asks for one, offer her to just move out for a few months. Allow her to have her own appartment. This may help her to clear her mind. And if all works well, you could end up moving in together again!Even go to couples therepy! Anything would help at this point.
Also, let her know why you are angry and what you are feeling. Don’t put pressure on her, but just tell her what you have on your mind. Offer her to do the same with you. Let her know that she can tell you anything, anything on her mind and you wont judge. That is what you can do to save the relationship.

If you feel at all betrayed, you could have a divorce. I think this is the more sensable option. Face it, she cheated on you. There is no friendship bond there. She obviousley doesnt care enough to controll her actions. She was immiture and stupid to do that. Plus, if she is still with him, she apparrantly wants OUT! It is best for both you and the kids. They will thank you later! Nobody wants to hear fighting all the time. It can corrupt someone for life. Even if you dont want to face it, it is the right thing. Most people I know would file for devorce just because of pure anger and the feelings of betrayal. I see that you want to save the relationship, so do whatever you need to. But, like I said earlier, the affair may be because she is not getting what she wants at home. Just make sure you find out. Also, I wouldn’t tell the kids if they are too young. They dont need to know any of this, because ‘mommy’ is still a good person, she just made a BIG mistake. That is all the advice I have, and good luck.

]]> By: Lab 7 http://helpsaveamarriage.com/blog/need-help-to-save-my-marriage/336/comment-page-1#comment-3670 Lab 7 Wed, 10 Mar 2010 12:31:44 +0000 http://helpsaveamarriage.com/blog/need-help-to-save-my-marriage/#comment-3670 you have to offer counseling. if she won't accept that then you have to let her go. she will come crawling back in 6 months. ensure u get a hiv/aids test before you touch her again. don't let her break ur heart and take ur life. focus on ur 3 children. they are blessing and will save ur sanity. you have to offer counseling. if she won’t accept that then you have to let her go. she will come crawling back in 6 months. ensure u get a hiv/aids test before you touch her again. don’t let her break ur heart and take ur life. focus on ur 3 children. they are blessing and will save ur sanity.

]]> By: linka http://helpsaveamarriage.com/blog/need-help-to-save-my-marriage/336/comment-page-1#comment-3671 linka Wed, 10 Mar 2010 12:31:44 +0000 http://helpsaveamarriage.com/blog/need-help-to-save-my-marriage/#comment-3671 I am so sorry for you and for your children. I know you love her, but she has to be willing to stay with you. If that's not the case, I suggest you get a good family law attorney. You and your kids need to be protected. Do not wait. I am so sorry for you and for your children. I know you love her, but she has to be willing to stay with you. If that’s not the case, I suggest you get a good family law attorney. You and your kids need to be protected. Do not wait.

]]> By: Dr. Kiss¿ http://helpsaveamarriage.com/blog/need-help-to-save-my-marriage/336/comment-page-1#comment-3672 Dr. Kiss¿ Wed, 10 Mar 2010 12:31:44 +0000 http://helpsaveamarriage.com/blog/need-help-to-save-my-marriage/#comment-3672 honestly seek proffesional help. thats the onlything that would help. you need somebody that knows all about this to help your situation. you cant do it alone. good luck and God bless. honestly seek proffesional help. thats the onlything that would help. you need somebody that knows all about this to help your situation. you cant do it alone. good luck and God bless.

]]> By: Juls http://helpsaveamarriage.com/blog/need-help-to-save-my-marriage/336/comment-page-1#comment-3673 Juls Wed, 10 Mar 2010 12:31:44 +0000 http://helpsaveamarriage.com/blog/need-help-to-save-my-marriage/#comment-3673 Talk to her or get somone put sense on her head as that guy is only 20 who knows.... Good Luck Talk to her or get somone put sense on her head as that guy is only 20 who knows….

Good Luck

]]> By: Rena T http://helpsaveamarriage.com/blog/need-help-to-save-my-marriage/336/comment-page-1#comment-3674 Rena T Wed, 10 Mar 2010 12:31:44 +0000 http://helpsaveamarriage.com/blog/need-help-to-save-my-marriage/#comment-3674 Mid life crisis???!! She's not even mid life!!! I know you don't want to hear this, but I'll say it anyway. Move on. Let's say she stops cheating on you and you win her back, what's to stop her from doing it again? I know...you love her. Let's just say this is a mid life crisis. Let her go anyway. If she really loves you, she'll want to come back sooner or later. You may even find someone who respects you during that time. This happened to my parents when I was young. They tried to work it out, but that only made matters worse. Since they couldn't trust each other, they were constantly fighting. They made my childhood miserable. I was SOOO happy when they finally divorced. The fighting was so bad, I thought they would kill each other. Think of your kids. If one person is unhappy in the marriage, it will only make things worse for the entire family. Good Luck. Mid life crisis???!! She’s not even mid life!!!

I know you don’t want to hear this, but I’ll say it anyway. Move on. Let’s say she stops cheating on you and you win her back, what’s to stop her from doing it again?

I know…you love her. Let’s just say this is a mid life crisis. Let her go anyway. If she really loves you, she’ll want to come back sooner or later. You may even find someone who respects you during that time.

This happened to my parents when I was young. They tried to work it out, but that only made matters worse. Since they couldn’t trust each other, they were constantly fighting. They made my childhood miserable. I was SOOO happy when they finally divorced. The fighting was so bad, I thought they would kill each other.

Think of your kids. If one person is unhappy in the marriage, it will only make things worse for the entire family.

Good Luck.

]]> By: spirit97x3 http://helpsaveamarriage.com/blog/need-help-to-save-my-marriage/336/comment-page-1#comment-3675 spirit97x3 Wed, 10 Mar 2010 12:31:44 +0000 http://helpsaveamarriage.com/blog/need-help-to-save-my-marriage/#comment-3675 Mid-life crisis my butt! She just needs to grow up. She's only 29,midlife is like 40's or 50's. Sounds like you're screwed. Right now; no matter what you say or do won't matter to her. Best thing you can do is just let her go. What about the kid's, who gets them? Unless you want to loose everything else you should tell her to get out now, don't wait! You'll go nuts knowing that she is living with you and screwing some other guy. Tell her to get out, at least then you can get her for abandonment if it comes down to that. You need to start to prepare yourself for the worse. Mid-life crisis my butt! She just needs to grow up. She’s only 29,midlife is like 40′s or 50′s. Sounds like you’re screwed. Right now; no matter what you say or do won’t matter to her. Best thing you can do is just let her go. What about the kid’s, who gets them? Unless you want to loose everything else you should tell her to get out now, don’t wait! You’ll go nuts knowing that she is living with you and screwing some other guy. Tell her to get out, at least then you can get her for abandonment if it comes down to that. You need to start to prepare yourself for the worse.

]]> By: Honest Injun! http://helpsaveamarriage.com/blog/need-help-to-save-my-marriage/336/comment-page-1#comment-3676 Honest Injun! Wed, 10 Mar 2010 12:31:44 +0000 http://helpsaveamarriage.com/blog/need-help-to-save-my-marriage/#comment-3676 You are one hell of a man to forgive that easily.Good Luck.Maybe she will realize that some day and dump the kid and come back to you.I hope so. You are one hell of a man to forgive that easily.Good Luck.Maybe she will realize that some day and dump the kid and come back to you.I hope so.

]]> By: sandra http://helpsaveamarriage.com/blog/need-help-to-save-my-marriage/336/comment-page-1#comment-3677 sandra Wed, 10 Mar 2010 12:31:44 +0000 http://helpsaveamarriage.com/blog/need-help-to-save-my-marriage/#comment-3677 Sounds like it is time to spice up your marriage. you need to remember back when you were 20. How were you in the bedroom? You might need to start exploring your options and find a new you by giving her more wild nights. Buy her sexy gowns and even a toy that you can both play with. Tell her that she is still your wife and that you want to make the best of your last six weeks together. Try new things like tying her up in the bed and seducing her. PLEASE HER AND ONLY HER without thinking of yourself. Explore you wild side and try to take her out every other night from here on. Try leaving little paper messages for her like where to meet you tonight. Or another saying to check under the bed and there she'll find another gift. tell her she's been naughty and stuff like that...Don't forget the romantic dinner and all that.... Best Of Luck! If this doesn't work, then atleast you tried and you can say you made the best of those 6 weeks to last her a lifetime. Sounds like it is time to spice up your marriage. you need to remember back when you were 20. How were you in the bedroom? You might need to start exploring your options and find a new you by giving her more wild nights. Buy her sexy gowns and even a toy that you can both play with. Tell her that she is still your wife and that you want to make the best of your last six weeks together. Try new things like tying her up in the bed and seducing her. PLEASE HER AND ONLY HER without thinking of yourself. Explore you wild side and try to take her out every other night from here on. Try leaving little paper messages for her like where to meet you tonight. Or another saying to check under the bed and there she’ll find another gift. tell her she’s been naughty and stuff like that…Don’t forget the romantic dinner and all that…. Best Of Luck! If this doesn’t work, then atleast you tried and you can say you made the best of those 6 weeks to last her a lifetime.

]]> By: imurdreamlover http://helpsaveamarriage.com/blog/need-help-to-save-my-marriage/336/comment-page-1#comment-3678 imurdreamlover Wed, 10 Mar 2010 12:31:44 +0000 http://helpsaveamarriage.com/blog/need-help-to-save-my-marriage/#comment-3678 You are a good man! First off you should sit down with her and really ask her to express herself and how she is feeling? Give her time to talk and have a lot of patience because she might not want to talk. She probably is very confused with her life right now. Don't yell at her...I'm not saying you will! If everything is fine, material wise..than maybe you should look at how you spend time with her. Do you show her the attention you used to? A lot of times that is what will go wrong and, sorry, but most men are blind to the fact that their woman is feeling ignored and is getting her attention somewhere else. Well good luck. You are a good man! First off you should sit down with her and really ask her to express herself and how she is feeling? Give her time to talk and have a lot of patience because she might not want to talk. She probably is very confused with her life right now. Don’t yell at her…I’m not saying you will! If everything is fine, material wise..than maybe you should look at how you spend time with her. Do you show her the attention you used to? A lot of times that is what will go wrong and, sorry, but most men are blind to the fact that their woman is feeling ignored and is getting her attention somewhere else. Well good luck.

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