my wife of 8 months wont stop drinking an is making my life hell with it ive asked her to stop or divorce her?
posted Friday,
6:44 am
its getting two regular for my likeing i dont know weather iam been selfish but is not a glass its abottle sometimes vodka cider the the other thing that makes it worse is that her daughter (not mine) also has started to drink more ive asked for the not to drink in the house as i dont like it iam at point of dirvorce through it
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Life is too short to be miserable, you have one alcoholic on your hands and another in the making. Do you really want to live with 2 alcoholics? Move out, file for divorce and be glad you found out early that she has this problem. I was married to an alcoholic for 27 years. I am now happily divorced!
How old is her daughter? And that’s right put your foot down let her know if she and her daughter don’t stop drinking that you will serve her with divorce papers and see if she straighten up then. Good luck.
uhh i think you should sither down
when she is sober n tell her like
look u can drink some times
bot every day an if u wanna be drinkin
crazyyyy!!! then were gonna get a divorce
How can I explain this….okay, willingness to stop drinking has to be in her. Don’t say "will power" because if I give you some ex-lax, your will power will not work either.
Your marriage vows are for in sickness and in health. Alcoholism is a disease. She is trying to fill a void of some kind. See if she is willing to try and AA meeting. You can get a list of all of them in your area on-line under AA. If she is drinking that much, she may need to detox in the hospital for a few days. Alcohol withdrawals can be fatal.
There is also Al Anon which is for spouses, friends and family of an alcoholic. They too are on line. If she refuses to even try, she is heading down the road to hell. She can get off that elevator any time she wishes.
Get a divorce now and if her daughter is under 21,report her to the police for underage drinking.
divorce her, shes totally nuts, she will pull you down.
I’m sure this is something yoy knew before you married her so now suck it up….
Pack some stuff and stay somewhere until she calls you. When she does Tell her she needs help because you are thinking of divorcing her because you feel she is out of control.
By the way if the child is under the drinking age call and report the mother for allowing this.
Good luck.
Get someone to go with you to the courthouse and enter a civil committal for being a chronic substance abuser against her and force her into treatment. The police will find her and take her to the hospital for psychiatric observation and a substance abuse evaluation. Then based on those recommendations she will most likely be required by the court to go to treatment. She may hate you initially for it, but will love you more for it in the end.
You didn’t realize she had a "drinking problem" while you were dating her?! This surely didn’t just happen over nite! I don’t know how old the daughter is, but if she’s underage, you should at least have the say in the matter of her drinking. I am a recovering alcoholic of 19 yrs. & can tell you in all honesty it’s only going to get worse! IF you think things are bad now, just wait, they’ll get worse. Alcoholism is a killer disease, & just hopefully she doesn’t take anyone along w/her if she drinks & drives! You do NOT have to accept the unacceptable, nor do you "have to" put up w/her drinking. When you say things to her, say what you mean, & mean what you say. IF you mean something, don’t make "idle threats" or take back things you’ve told her. Stand firm w/what you tell her, If YOU want to learn more about living w/an alcoholic, go to a few Alanon mtgs. They are the best bunch of people you’d hope to meet & are there to help you. Call the 800# for alcohol & see where the next closest mtg. is to you. I’ve often said, AA saved my life, Alanon saved my sanity. My "ex" was also an alcoholic. I got sick & tired of being sick & tired & joined AA. My life is COMPLETELY different now, but I KNOW I am no longer hurting anyone because of my drinking. My 3 kids were so happy to get their mother back again as I DID hurt them badly due to my drinking days. I bgt. vodka in 2 liter bottles, & that usually was my choice of drink also. You’ve got to tell her no more drinking & MEAN it. She’s NOT going to be able to do it on her own. There are also "open" AA mtgs. you could go to w/her IF she wanted to try to stop. Just remember, it’s NOT going to get better, only worse! And NO you are not being selfish in any way. No one should have to live w/a drunk! Ck out a few Alanon mtgs. tho, they WILL help you…I wish you all the best…:)
This is only the beginning of what could be a long road if you stick with her/them. Suggestion: move out for a month and make it that long, tell her you are giving her time to take a look at herself and to come right. Explain you cannot live with this and neither did you want this for you in a marriage. Tell her it also hurts you to see her and her daughter wasting their life to alcohol and that you had a higher vision for them with you; that’s why you married her. So you’re giving her a full month to sort themselves out and if they haven’t fully dumped the habit, you will consider divorce. Then when you are away, call her but not every day and not more than once a day. She needs to know and see that you are serious about this. You don’t say how old her duaghter is, but she must realise to what a bad influence this is on her daughter. If her daughter is over 18 then, she too is adult enough to hear the conversation with your wife too.
If you love her get her help. If she loves you she will go. If she wont…you know the answer. Only she can help herself