My son was in a coma and his wife is trying to get a divorce- how do i stop her?
posted Friday,
12:03 pm
My son got into a car accident at the age of 23. He had been married for 4 months. It’s been 5 years and his wife wants to get a divorce. She says she can’t stay married to him anymore because she found someone new. She says she can’t continue to stay married to someone who will never be able to have a family with her. How can I stop this? I know in enough time my son will be better! He will be able to everyday things, but until then, we all must be united. If she divorces him…..it would ruin everything.
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You are being pretty selfish. Fortunately, there is nothing you can do.
you play no role in their marriage, and you can’t stop it.
I would just like to say that his wife is one cold hearted bitch. When she said I DO, that meant till the end.
I wish your son all the best.
God bless you and your family.
you never said, is he still in a coma? If he is it has been five years how long does she have to wait. I feel bad for your son but she has to make herself happy too
you can’t stop her if that is what she wants to do. I don’t understand how someone can vow to love someone for better or for worse and not really mean it. You need to devote your time to helping your son and let her do what she thinks she has to do.
I can’t imagine being in your situation and you have my total sympathy.
Sadly, I don’t think you can stop her, but he would have to be able to sign the papers unless she got a court order stating that by means of the fact he is unable to make a competent decision, she can have the divorce without his consent. Why would you want someone to stay around who will begin to resent him for keeping her down? She wants other things in life, and she deserves to be able to live her life. She stayed for 5 years, I think she did more than some women would do.
She has every right to continue with a life. It’s been 5 years! Not 5 months. Let her go. Besides there isn’t anything you can do about it.
Try talking to her face to face. But in my opinion you sould let her go and have her divorce your son. She’s no good and did not turn out to be faithful and loyal. Maybe one day your son will find a real woman who will love with no reservations no matter what happens. Let that evil woman go. IF she was loving she wouldn’t be dating and seeing other guys for a relationship.
Ultimately, and sadly this is not your choice, nor your place to stop her. This is their marriage, and she is gonna do what she is gonna do. Wouldn’t you be happier to know that if or when your son does wake up and she is not there, then he can go and find someone that will truly stick by his side…..Think of this as a glimpse into the future. It’s a sad situation for everyone, and I am so sorry that you have to go through this. Good Luck
I hate to say it, but you can’t stop her and you shouldn’t really try. If she is still willing to help and support him when he does recover from this, then that is what is important. 5 years is a long time to go without the affection and arms of the man she once loved. Who knows, had this terrible accident not happened and she had fallen out of love with him by now anyway, you wouldn’t want him to stay married to her. He doesn’t need support from people who don’t care, he needs people like you that love him and are willing to stick things out in sickness and in health. That’s what a real marriage is anyway.
Although her reasons may sound selfish….her husband is no longer the person she married…its not mentioned what condition he is in right now, but just by responding to what you have mentioned about being united….by her staying with him would create worse karma than if she were to leave and set him free from the negativity she now hold within her heart…He is truely better off without her.
well you could file an injuction to stop it,, he has to be served with papers,,try the injuction
You can’t stop her. Whether or not she’s doing the right thing, it’s her decision to make.
Ruin everything for who? She’s wanting to move on, it would be a really bad choice to try and force her into staying. She doesn’t want that kind of a life…I can’t say I blame her, to be honest. I’m sure it’s not that she doesn’t love your son, but she needs to be happy too.
She may not be abl to get the divorce here unless she can produce medical reports that your son will never come out of the coma alive.She took the vows of "in health and in sickness…" so the Judge will probably hold her to them, but that doesnt mean he can stop her infidelity. All he can dois put the divorce on hold for now til medical science can inform him one way or another. Good luck and wish your son allthe best in a speedy and full recovery
You can’t and you don’t…..Is this women someone you want to be with your son? What it tells me she doesn’t truly understand her vow’s…..through sickness and health till death do us part. Sounds to me like she doesn’t deserve your son so even though it will be hard on him let her go do you really want someone like this around or with your son. I hope I can speak for a majority of the people on Yahoo Answers that pray for your son and wish him well……….
for sickness and health… til death>? nahhh… there’s divorce! if she was in the comma and you’re son wanted to divorce her… would you still feel the same? honestly?
You can’t stop her. It is her life and her choice. I am very sad for your son and I do hope he gets better but try and understand her side of it. She is in a marriage that has become physically dead and at this point she may no longer be in love with him. It wouldn’t be right for her to wait forever for him if she doesn’t want to. She probably wants a family and a full life and no one can blame her. It is sad but it won’t ruin everything. It will make things tough on him if he does in fact recover but after 5 years what are his chances realistically?
I pray the he does recover but there is nothing you can do to stop her from divorcing him.
God Bless!
The bible says for better or worst, but she has put her life on hold for 5 years. I think that is a substantial amount of time. If your son loves her he would want her to be happy as well.
Stay out of the way. I’m sorry, but she has chosen a life outside his care room. Why would he want to stay married to someone who doesn’t want to stay married to him? I know this must be hard. But she has made an adult decision and you won’t make life better for anyone by trying to stand in her way.
Honestly "til death do us part" doesn’t mean what it used to anymore…when your son recovers from this situation don’t you want him to be with someone who understands "in sickness and in health FORSAKING all others till death do us part"…it will hurt him but in the end he will be grateful you let this woman out of his life..it’ll free him up to meet someone who will truly love him NO MATTER WHAT!!
I am praying for you family and your son’s recovery!!
I’m sorry for what has happened to your son, but life goes on and with life so does pain and healing and growth.
You son’s wife has grown and changed and for that reason alone she has the right to end her marriage.
She has waited as long as she could. Not everything is forever.
Your story reminds me of the family that contested the husband’s right to allow his wife to die even though she was brain dead.
Life is never ruined because it is always in a state of change.
This has to be terribly hard for your family. She has stuck by him for 5 years. That in itself is amazing. She deserves a family and someone to be with her as much as your son does. At this point, your son doesn’t know anything. WHEN he wakes up, he will have your love and support and that of your family.
She is giving up on a life with the unknown and that is her right.
YOU are the MOM and YOU will be the one to pull him through this.
It has to be pain, but think about it from her point of view. She is young and still able to have a family. Your son, I am so sorry to say, may not be able to give that to her.
PRAY and PRAY HARD. God can bring him out of this!!!!!!
You can’t stop it.She can get a judge to o.k. it.Why would you want to do this to her.You can’t expect her to wait her entire life for something that may never happen.You should appreciate the fact that she stuck around this long.I know your heart is broken over your son.And I know you will never give up on him.And no one expects you to.But he is your son not hers.You can’t expect her to have the faith you have in him or the same unconditional love you have for him.If you stop and think about it.You know in your heart your son wouldn’t want her to spend her life waiting for him.For that matter ask yourself it she was the one lying in that bed.Would you want him to give up his life?Would you think it was o.k. to never allow him to experience having a family of his own and spend his life alone without a wife.You know you wouldn’t want him to wait on her forever.You can’t expect her to either.You do not want her to stick around anyway.If you try to force her to.She will hate you for it.And hate him for it.And your son doesn’t need to have that kind of negative element around him.
It has been five years and you think he needs more time to get better. Better is a relative term. You are hoping for everyday things; she wants more than that.
I can understand your pain, but life does go on. She wants to have a marriage and a family. You should give her your blessing and tell her you still want to be a part of her life with her new family. You might get to be a grandparent through her (if that’s what you want).
How will a divorce "ruin everything"?
I can’t think of any way to stop a divorce under these circumstances, especially if you live in a no-fault state.
How long did you expect her to live a lonely and empty life. How do you think she has felt after five years of waiting and praying that he would wake up. Ithink she has lived long enough holding on to her husband. And as for him waking up and being fine have the doctors told you what the chances are of that after five long years. Ithing you need to get some councilling because i don’t think your dealing with your son being in a coma very well
Unfortunately this is life. When you get sick, your friends dump you. People assume when they’re healthy that their friends would be there if they got sick, but basically people only care about themselves.
Once you become sick, you’re truely alone and everyone on here can have it happen to them at any given moment.
Once he gets better, he won’t care as much about everything and will move on to his life in the future.