Is there hope to save the marriage?
posted Wednesday,
3:20 pm
What would you do if your husband and father of 3 children confessed to being in love with another woman from work who is also married happily, has 2 little boys and doesn’t want her marriage to end?And neither does he, but they both want to continue their relationship which lasts over a year?
Would you wait till time gives a solution
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if the "other woman" is really married happily then why would she have an affair to your husband.? maybe both of them thinks/ feels that something is missing in their family and they found this missing piece with each other. try to save your marriage, cause at this point if your husband doesn’t love you any longer he would have left you but he didn’t right? he still loves you and your kids he just wanted to find the missing piece he might be feeling right now. and always remember you are married you promised to each other that only death can set you apart and its not always the divorce or breaking up the best solution to family problems. sometimes you have to try harder and prove your love to your husband. make him remember or tell him again what you are doing before when you are still not married up to the time you already have kids.( in a romantic way). spend a family day together,,,, maybe it’ll open his eyes and will make him realize that its you and his kids are the most important people in his life and that you should be the one that he should prioritize.
God bless!!!
Dont know what to tell you then
No. I think your husband and his GF/mistress are staying with their spouses out of fear of being alone. You and his mistress’s husband are their "safeties" — they don’t have to fear being alone because they can always fall back on you two if things don’t work out.
Get out now, before you get hurt more.
I’d walk out. That is no situation to live in and it doesn’t sound like he’s giving you an option, only telling you how it will be. Time will not give you a solution on this one. It’s a done deal.
no i’d get the hell rid of him and teach my kids not to grow into a cheat like there father
As your husband if it’s okay if you date other people. Most likely he will not like that this too much. I would just end it. That is no way to treat your wife.
in b4 "watch fireproof"
you will be in hell with this situation regardless of the time lapse!
Wait? Wait for what?
Are you suggesting just let him do what he wants till he gets it out of his system – disrespecting you, your marriage, your children, her marriage and children –
You mention that your husband and this other woman are happily married? Apparently not or they would not be turning to each other.
What would I do – I would not tolerate that kind of behavior.
it doesnt sound liek it
no if i knew my husband cheating i’d give him a nasty divorce, .
Personally, I am no ones "consolation prize".
I would kick him out, and tell her husband if he doesn’t already know. Then I would file for divorce and once I was ready to date, look for a man who respects me enough not to be a useless cheater. As for ym ex, except to arrange child stuff for visits, I would pretend his loser azz was dead.
That is just me though.
dump him he dont want you.
Kudos to your husband! Finally a man with some balls who goes out realizes what he wants to make him happy and gets it! Obviously if your husband fell in love with another married woman then you were likely falling down on the home front. Now the ball is in your court, you know he has a mistress and NO, he is not going to divorce you and he is not leaving his mistress… so you decide. Sounds to me like you’re finally in charge honey!
No, not at all. Kick his cheating @ss out and find someone who you can trust. By the way, she can’t be happily married if she’s cheating. Love doesn’t work that way.
Seek marriage counseling. There have got to be underlying issues here that need to be dealt with. Something was missing from your relationship that caused him to look elsewhere. Now I’m not putting blame on anyone but when our needs aren’t being met, we look outside of what we know to have what we desire. Maybe he wasn’t communicating his needs to you. Maybe he was but you misunderstood what he was trying to say. Either way, he felt the need to seek love outside of your relationship but still felt a strong enough love for you that he wants to be with you. If you love him and you want your marriage to work, seek counseling. But remember that you are worthy of love, complete and unconditional love. Accept responsibility for your part in what was missing in your marriage but also make sure he accepts his responsibility for his part and for his choice to break your vows. Marriage is a two way street and you’ll both have to be on the same street for it to work.
meet the other guy. If you two hit it off then all balances out ok
I would leave him. I would not put up with that at all. He committed adultery and is wrong on so many levels.
Head for the door WT Heck kind of rational thinking is this!? They both vowed to other people and now they want to have their fling excepted and sacrifice your sanity and happiness the hell with them! Horn balls!
This is my advice keep your mouth shut! Stand firm and strong allow him to continue his relationship and tell him you just want him to be happy and you love him (game/cap up on your part) Do not pay not one bill because for him to be that bold to tell you that he must can afford his situation, and if he has to borrow the money from her and take full care of you and your children with no input from you let him but for him to be in this situation he would afford it at all cost!!!! Save your money and look for a great Divorce attorney and prepare to get your children ready for the next transition in your life without that loser and think more of yourself then he do and move on……. Trust me never let your right hand know what your left hand is doing…. Then let the both of them figure out without you in the situation…. He don’t need you he needs a trash can, and your not a trash can for him to deposit his trash with her in!!!! Move on………………….. But prepare for moving on first on his expense!!! But any man that can hold two relationships should be able to afford it!!! Not one bill should you pay!!!!! Not one!!!!!!!!!!!!! If he act like he can not handle that financial situation of you and the children then get out quick!!!! But make it all about you from this point on out!!!! Trust me your worth more…
It’s time for a divorce.
Yes, give it some time and give him the space he needs to be able to properly maintain his relationship with his coworker. If they wish to continue their relationship why would you want to disrupt that? Maybe the affair will only go on for another year or two and then everything can go back to normal. And be nice about it. For example since she is married as well they may need to use your house sometimes for their get togethers, so maybe offer to take the kids out for the night to the movies or something so they can have some alone time or maybe you and the kids could take a little weekend vacation somewhere so they don’t need to feel so rushed and they can have proper time to enjoy each other.
Tell him that you intend to find you a lover yourself and will stop when he stops seeing his friend.
HELL NO!
The longer you wait the more desperate and unappealing you will look. I would file for divorce immediately. He is only waiting to see if she leaves her husband. He is afraid of being alone and you are only comfort not joy to him. Your kids will actually appreciate the fact that their mother is demanding the respect she deserves. Don’t be naive. He doesn’t love you at all.