Is there any precaution you can take to stop a woman getting your money after divorce?
posted Tuesday,
10:40 am
Not planning to do anything of the sort… Its just all of these divorce stories made me curious.
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A pre-nup and some solid locks on your door
of course, dont marry her or reproduce with her. simple isnt it.
Prenuptual aggreement! I’m trying to get my bf to sign one before we get married.
Well, since you are married and half of "her" money is yours and have of "your" money is hers it should all work out in the end.
If you ever do leave, just give her 1/2 like it should be and move on.
Married people don’t have "my" money. It’s "our" money.
If it concerned you a prenuptual agreement was in order before marriage.
Prenuptial agreement is the safest bet
After a divorce is past tense. She would get money before the divorce and then agree and the decree is done. After that she gets zilch.
Aside from a pre-nup it’s best to never let her know what you actually have.
Pre-nup
Why aren’t you planning to protect yourself if you divorce? You should be, everyone should protect themselves and what they’ve worked for. To not do so is stoopid, seriously.
You must have a prenup before you get married, it’s not unromantic, in fact it can help keep a marriage together, both sides know what’s coming in a divorce, and may think twice before doing something stupid. When it’s all up in the air, oh so romantic, of course she/he wouldn’t screw me (not), you might not think twice. But if it’s written out, he/she will get 30% (or whatever) of my stuff if we divorce, well, one has that in mind at all times. Sometimes everyone needs a little nudge to behave. If a prospective spouse refuses to sign a prenup, that ought to tell you all you need to know.
Good luck!
You can try a Prenuptial Agreement, but in ALL cases the Law of the State overcome anything in a pre-nup.
For example, your pre-nup might say that she has NO access to your 401K plan (where you have socked away $100,000). But in many states, The Law says that she gets 50% of THAT, too. Since your pre-nup violates state law, the law wins, and she gets 50% regardless of what the pre-nup says.
The BEST way to prevent someone from taking all your money during a divorce is to NOT GET DIVORCED. Be very very VERY careful about WHO you marry. Date for a LONG time — at least a year — before you get married, and then go for a long (1-9 months) engagement (we ALL change during THAT pressure).
STAY OUT OF BED!! SEX is NOT the driving force behind a marriage, mutual respect IS. During your dating, see how she respects you wishes, your dreams, and you life choices. if she complains because you like to spend Sunday watch football games on four different TV’s — well, maybe you need to rethink the marriage thing. if she gets upset because YOU bought $150 sunglasses, instead of buying them for her, you may have a problem. if she is a Christian and you are an atheist – you are definitely headed down the wrong road!
The second thing to do is to do your damndest to STAY married, even if it means your own personal embarrassment. Bend over backwards, grab your ankles, and kiss HER ass if that is what it take. marriage is made on mutual compromise. You will NOT get everything you want, and the secret to STAYING married is to fully understand which things are REALLY important (like, paying the rent instead of going out to eat), and which things are truly negotiable (a minivan will get you where you need to go just as well as a Porsche).
THIRD, learn to apologize EVEN IF YOU DIDN’T DO ANYTHING WRONG, and ALWAYS forgive your partner even if they tried to murder you. Apologies show that YOU know you did wrong, and unconditional forgiveness shows that there is NOTHING more important to you than their love.
FOURTH, NEVER EVER use the word "divorce" as a threat. There is ALWAYS a way to "work it out", and do NOT be embarrassed to seek professional help from a counselor or psychiatrist! There is ALWAYS middle ground, and there is NOTHING so important that a divorce is REQUIRED. So there is no need to even use the word "divorce" — except when talking about the poor state of mind of OTHER couples.
You learn to do these things, and you won’t need the pre-nup, and you will be GLAD to give her all your money — when you die.