Is it worth a teen trying to stop a divorce?
posted Saturday,
6:20 am
My mum came into my room and told me that she was looking for an apartment and that she wanted a lawyer. she said that i was mature enough to hear it and that i could handle it. i can but i feel like my insides are rippng apart. She think my dad is lazy and has bad spending habits. and its a bit more. but i want to know if it is worth trying to stop it. or is it just stupid and should i just let my parents handle it?
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Ask them to at least try marriage counseling for the sake fo the family. Tell them that if they can not work it out, after trying counseling, you will accept it.
You can not make your parents love each other, no matter what you do. You can only love them, and keep in mind that no matter whether they are together or apart, they will always love you.
Should they split up, tell both of them that you will not allow either of them to talk bad about each other, to you, because you love them both and do not want to be put in the middle of their problems.
Best wishes. I hope things will work out okay for you.
Your mom is not happy, I would let her do as she pleases and stay out of it. Sure,. you can tell her your opinion, but obviously she is going to do what she wants regardless.
don’t get involved.
It all comes down to whether you trust your Mother. Because if you do then you have to understand that she will be making the right decision and it wont just be for herself but also for you. Another thing is, she may not be telling you ALL the facts, there could be other reasons of which she has not told you. When my parents got divorced I was very sad (naturally) but now I realise it was definately the right thing for everyone.
PS.. two lots of presents at Christmas and Birthdays aint too bad either
I’m sure that there is more to your mother wanting a divorce than just laziness and bad spending habits. Children usually have no idea what their parents’ marriage is like other than the surface details. There are probably other details of which you are unaware. Regardless, their relationship is their relationship, and nothing you can say or do can fix it. It is their responsibility to try to mend their marriage. You will only get hurt if you try.
I know how hard it can be to have one’s parents go through a divorce. Please find someone to talk to, be it a grandparent or other relative, friend, counselor, teacher, etc. This is not your fault. Good luck, hon.
I think you certainly have a right to let them both know how you feel. You may not be able to stop the divorce, and that may not be the best thing either. But tell them that you love them both and ask them what they have done to try and resolve their problems. I think they owe it to you to at least try find a solution. eg marriage guidance counseling, family relationship counseling, psychologist etc Some marriages can’t be saved but remember that sometimes "it’s better to be from a broken home than to live in one."
sorry your going through this….. this is between your parents but it wont hurt to sit them both down and tell them straight out that its ripping your insides apart… I think parents need to hear this more because maybe they might at least try a little harder to make the changes they need to in order to save the marriage…… kids are rarely considered in this decision but if you put your two cents in, you never know…… you per say cant stop the divorce, but you might make them think a little harder about alternatives…. just go into it with no expectations……. but pour your heart out… maybe write things down and practice what you want to say because this will be a highly emotionally charged situation and you want to be prepared.
good luck!
It is a delicate matter for young children.
Have a dialogue with your dad and mom and leave it to them