Comments on: Im afraid that i will stop loving my kids. can a divorce make you stop loving your kids ?

By: biegb

biegb — Sat, 10 Jul 2010 05:07:23 +0000

sounds weird…my parents were divorce when i was very young as well..and that just made my mother closer to me since she was the only adult in the house…your spouse shoulnt influence the love u have 4 ur children,,,u should love them regardless of the situation with your partner because they were created when u guys where once in love..

**so basacly NO…if it does happen i suggest you look for a docts help…you should have unconditional love 4 ur kids

By: Sasha's Mommy

Sasha's Mommy — Sat, 10 Jul 2010 05:07:23 +0000

Wow, I have never heard of such a thing. Sounds like these women just failed to keep their priorities in order and lost their focus on what was important. I don’t think they stopped loving their kids as much as they became selfish and put their own physical desires above that of caring for their children.

I think this can only happen if you allow it to. This is why I discourage women who go through a divorce from trying to jump right into another relationship. Are women not independent anymore? Do they really depend that much on having a man in their lives ALL the time?

By: MW&M (My 4 Little Monsters)

MW&M (My 4 Little Monsters) — Sat, 10 Jul 2010 05:07:23 +0000

That attitude has nothing to do w/not loving their children, and EVERYTHING to do w/being selfish brats.

Divorce can make some people (woman & men alike) bitter, angry, selfish, resentful, or just go plain WILD! I’ve seen the quietest woman turn into raging party girls after a divorce. i’ve seen men go from being a devoted dad, to being a dead beat.
It’s all about their own way of handling the stresses in their lives. some that get divorced all the sudden feel like they are "owed" something, and act out, or do silly things, or become hateful or hurtful, or lose sight of their priorities.

not everyone does, but some do. I’m sorry your mother wasn’t there for you. i’m sorry your aunt is following in her sister’s shadow. that’s very sad. and they will realize one day and regret that mistake.

I personally was NOT like that after my ex and i divorced, i worked my butt off to support me and my son. we are very close. Even after i remarried and gained a stepson and had two more babies, i love my first born like there is no tomorrow. i love ALL my children, biological and step-kid. they mean everything to me. I cannot imagine being that selfish because my first marriage didn’t work. that’s BS.

By: Mean Carleen

Mean Carleen — Sat, 10 Jul 2010 05:07:23 +0000

I have never heard of something so ridiculous. Your mother and aunt we’re wrong and probably depresesd; which is NO excuse.

By: ~#1 Bitch~

~#1 B*itc*h~ — Sat, 10 Jul 2010 05:07:23 +0000

a divorce should not make you stop loving your kids? I mean, why are you even asking this question?? I would NEVER EVER stop loving my kids NO MATTER WHAT!!!!!

By: alb

alb — Sat, 10 Jul 2010 05:07:23 +0000

No a divorce cant make you stop your loving kids. If you love your child then that’s it. Maybe your mom was depressed or had other problems. You should love your children regardless of a divorce or not. Its not the child’s fault a marriage ended. No offense but your mom and aunt both need some counseling. Please don’t let history keep repeating itself. If you have children and are thinking about a divorce, get some help if you think you could be in the same situation.

By: Real Talk....Ya dig

Real Talk....Ya dig — Sat, 10 Jul 2010 05:07:23 +0000

When my kids were younger i cooked 3 squares a day. after my divorce i cooked less,and the girls started cooking more.I work full time. I provide food,clothing,shelter, and spending money. I am a good mom. we eat dinner together 2-3 times a week. Sometimes i dont want to hear everything they are talking about, but I hug them EVERYDAY!!!! I kiss them, love on them. Just yesterday I was loving on my 11yo, and I asked her if she felt loved. she said yes. i asked her if she felt loved even when i was mad. she said yes. I went thru a phase where i had lost my mind and had taken up with some fool and neglected my kids. And that bothers me as i type. So what i have done now is focused more on my kids and have resolved to meeting my "soulmate" till they are at least in college. I don’t want to bring my horrible dating life home anymore. Everynow and then I require a "tune-up", I am a grown woman, so I have needs that need attention. But I dont bring that side of my personal life to the house. You will be fine

By: nisy

nisy — Sat, 10 Jul 2010 05:07:23 +0000

I am sorry that you’ve gone through such a rough time. I am divorced, I still love my 3 kids (and granddaughter) very much. They are all out on their own now, but we still try to get together as much as possible. Sounds like your mother and aunt have some self esteem issues, rejection, divorce is difficult for many people to handle and they need to be assured that they are still wanted, and attractive to others.
But the choice is still yours on how you handle your life, you don’t have to follow in the footsteps of anyone else. You may be related, but you are not your mother or aunt.

By: Mr. Bugsme

Mr. Bugsme — Sat, 10 Jul 2010 05:07:22 +0000

Forgive me, but it sounds like your mom and your aunt are cuckoo and/or dysfunctional. I think most moms put their kids first (even monkey moms do better than what you describe – much better).

By: tincan62

tincan62 — Sat, 10 Jul 2010 05:07:22 +0000

yep