Ideas on how to save a relationship?
posted Monday,
1:24 pm
My boyfriend doesn’t like to talk about our problems just ignore them and it’s really putting a damper on our relationship because I like to talk stuff over, not just blow it off. (theres more to it, i just dont want to go on and on about it)
we have been going out for 3+ years.
I just dont know if we should just give it a break, or what?
any ideas on what I can do to save this relationship?
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I don’t know if my experiences would help. I found out my boyfriend was sending dirty texts to this slutty girl. I couldn’t get anything out of him except "i’m sorry" and "she’s nothing to me" so I told him I needed to have some space and that I’ll contact him when I’m ready. Well after a few days he really opened up and said he didn’t want to lose me.
Maybe if you were to take a break, he would realize that you’re serious and you won’t be walked on. You never know what you have until you lose it. He’ll realize it too. What do you have to lose? It’s not healthy to keep everything bottled up and away from each other.
If yall have been together that long. he needs to accept yall have to talk it out. mine trys to do that, but in the end he relizes it has to be delt with. if he dont want it to work he might also do that. or hes just avoiding the problem tell him that its an issue and if hes not wiling to talk about it then clearly it wont work in the end and you will find oseone better.
my sister would always threaten her bf with the break up lines but maybe youd be better off explaining to him and if he chooses not to listen tell him u want a break.
u dont want someone that cant handle confrontations or general discussions about the relationship
Maybe try going about it in a different way. What if you take a change of pace and don’t share as much as you used to? Would he be left wanting more?
My guess is that he would realize that he enjoys hearing about your day, your opinion, along with everything else. Then maybe he would understand where you’re coming from.
Everyone has a different way to resolve problems, find yours. (both)
try to show him how it feels to be in ur shoes!
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New rule. For 24 hours you are not allowed to bring up any problems in the relationship. Focus on the good and point that out. From your description of your boyfriend’s avoiding confrontation, he may be flooding, an emotional condition in which the body gets physically overwhelmed with stress. If you want your relationship to survive, you have to stop flooding. Remember when you do bring up problems, it always is better to have a soft start up. For example, if you wish he called you more, you can talk about a time when you felt really loved because he was calling you. Then say, I wish you would still do that, I love to communicate with you.