I want to save my marriage?
posted Monday,
8:12 pm
Me and my husband have been married for 5 years, but it’s all gone crap now, we have no kids, we have good careers – which we are wrapped up in all the time.
I really want to save this marriage, can someone give me some advice
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Hug and kiss your husband and tell him how much you have been missing him, ask him what he thinks about the two of you having a little weekend get-away, (figure something out ahead of time so when hes asks, what and where, you have an idea) ask if there’s anywhere he’d like to go with you.
The more good times and passion you share together, the closer and more loving you will be together.
start with a marriage counselor.
This doesn’t have enough detial…. you didn’t say ‘why’ it crap now.
Post the question again stating what the problem is.
both of you quit working so much and have some sex
We need to know what is wrong in order to give advice. The only thing I can tell you would be to try counciling.
Professional counseling.
your careers could cost you your marriage….
2 words….
MARRIAGE COUNSELING.
2nd step would be to maybe make each other a higher priority than your careers.
Try spending more time together. Make dates with each other. Take weekend trips, spend some you two time. Do it now before you have kids.
Why has it all gone to crap. Do you spend time together? Without more info, tough to answer
Do you talk to each other? I know it sounds corny – but communication is really the backbone of any marraige.
At least you don’t have kids yet…
You can only change yourself and your spouse has to be willing to make the marriage work as well.
Not sure what has happened that it has turned bad but if it’s beyond either one of you repairing, you need counseling. If it’s not quite to that point, you both should take some time off, go on a trip somewhere, spend some time together & talk.
Being that my marriage ended in divorce, I am the wrong person to give advice…But.
Try counseling. It is worth a shot.
sexy knickers ahhhhh that always does the trick and wax those legs babe
try finding a perfect time where u can sit down and discuss your matters calmly if that does not help try seeing a marriage counselor it might work
First of all, make time for each other. Put each other back up the list of priorities. Find time to get away (together) from the daily routine. Change things up from time to time to keep the fires burning. Seek a marriage counselor or mediator if you have lots of communication or underlying problems. Give each other surprises and gifts like you did when you were dating….
Just be blunt and communicate with your partner to see where he’s at. If you are both unhappy, it may be more prudent to just call it quits and move ahead. Best case scenario, you both decide to pursue counseling, but definitely don’t let this fester. The longer you wait the worse it will get. I wish you the best, I’ve been through it before. Feel free to email me if you want or need more feedback.
One item you did not mention:
(it lead to the failure of my first marriage)
Being equally yoked in the SPIRITUAL parts of your being.
You need to both walk equally in the ‘religious’ aspect of your lives. Both need to belong to SOMETHING greater than yourselves that you can lean on, pray to, commune with, socialize by, and look forward to in the afterlife.
God needs to be an EQUAL PARTNER in your relationship. He needs to be the HEAD of the family. If you leave God out, then troubles, when they come about, will do far more destruction to the marriage. God clearly defines the responsibilities & roles of the husband and wife, with no gray areas. This makes for a union that is stronger, more loving, more patient, less confusion, and less likely to be led astray.
This is the versage with my new marriage that is 10x better because this go-round I married a Godly man. That has made ALL the difference!
"A cord of three strands is not easily torn apart"-paraphrased.
Original: "And if one can overpower him who is alone, two can resist him. A cord of three strands is not quickly torn apart. " This means that GOD is one of the three strands to help you hold fast in your marriage.
092007 5:00
Take some time out for each other. I know work is important, but you also have to work on your marriage. Go to a romantic dinner and just catch up, put rose peddles all over the bed and get some sexy lingerie, and have the best time in the bedroom together.
well you two are working so hard,having hallway sex,as you pass each other in the hall,your life will be slipping away,till one day,you wont even know each other anymore.evey payday,make a date night,or movie night,draw a bath,and invite him to come with you,talk about your day at work after some great sex,and most of all TALK TALK ask him how he feels,and u do the same.
Both of you go together to marriage counceling and then go have a nice meal out at your favorite place and sit and talk.
Go to couple counseling. Try picking one day were you two can go somewhere like dinner and or a movie. Date night, not just for couples with kids. If you two kinda get along try going on weekend vacation. Its hard when you both work and all that comes home with you.
you have to make time for one another rediscover your connection he has to make the time as well start there find out whats most important to you your career and being alone down the line or your career your husband and making it work ~it has to go both ways if worse comes to worse and you choose to separate you dont have any kids to argue over this is not that bad start finding happiness with in your self
I would need more info but it seems like your problems are due to being too wrapped up in your careers. Your careers might be good but life is more more then careers – you have to be happy in other area’s as well. Careers will come and go but your happiness,healthy,husband and friends will be there for-ever ( at least friends and family for sure). I suggest you and your husband sit down and first work on finding some quality time together where you can communicate without distractions. Take a vacation together and bring back the feelings that brought you together in the first place. Try to find someone independent ( ie counselor,family friend, who can give you some non bias suggestions.
Good luck
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Well, you never said what you two do for a living or what the main problem is in your marriage so I’ll just go with what I know… If it is your busy careers that are putting space between you and your husband, then slow down!! Find a way to be together. Do some work at home sometime or change some hours around so that you can be off when he is. Yes, absence makes the heart grow fonder, but too much absence can make the heart grow apart. I would suggest marriage counseling, but if you can’t find time just to be with him (and vice versa, not putting the blame on just you), then you’ll never find time to both go to counseling! And whenever you are off together, make your time worthwhile. You have no kids tying you down to stay at home, so go out and enjoy your time together!! Good luck!
If he is willing, start with counseling or go talk to someone within your religious congregation (if you are religious).
COMMUNICATION. YOU MUST TALK TO HIM, TELL HIM YOU LOVE HIM AND YOU WANT TO WORK YOUR MARRIAGE OUT. MAKE CHANGES SPEND TIME WITH EACH OTHER, IF YOU DON’T TALK TO HIM HE WONT KNOW.
I want you to save your marriage too. The things you do to get your man should be the things you do to keep your man. Careers come & go, your husband is & should be a life time commitment. That’s what’s importaint.
ARC & KRC
Affinity, Reality ,& Communication all work innerdependently (I suggest u look all these up in a dictionary) when u communicate about a shared Reality your Affinity increases think of it as a equilateral trangle when u strengthen one the others grow as well ! The same goes for Knowlege , Responsibility, & Commitment!
You can not save your marriage alone! A marriage is a true partnership, you must share your happy moment and your bad ones! But most important of all, both of you must have an open communication together, and both must want to save the marriage. To that you add love and tenderness, and realize that no one is perfect, especially you and your spouse, so learn to love and respect each other, in spite of your combined short comings!
I dunno. But "Kellie," third answer down from the top…..she’s kinda cute!
without knowing all the specifics of your situation. My advice to you would be to seek counseling, or talk to your minister about this.
I didn’t read all the answers, maybe someone said it already, but try doing something together again, to remember why you hooked up in first place. It is important to have fun together.
Take the time to make the time for each other. On your day planner-pencil in your husband. The two of you should say WE are important.
You now have good careers. You two worked to get to that POINT. Marriage is forever and always a work in progress.
ALWAYS think of ways to please him. He brings you flowers; you write him a poem. He brings you chocolate; you get him a book he likes to read(not porn). Go on walks together.
You can call your marriage a JOINT career. Build this career up. Have fun, enjoy. Make it a JOINT adventure also. Make it a living active romance novel.
Don’t chomp at the bits and strain with all your might to find fault with one another. Try with every fiber of your being to be the best YOU, YOU can be for yourselves and each other.
Some churches have councilors. Go to the house of The Lord.
Kids don’t make the marriage stay together. I think it adds MORE STRESS!!!
Go get counseling, if that don’t work….separate!
Don’t feel bad, nothing is FOREVER! Only DEATH AND TAXES!