Comments on: I want to save my marriage. Is it wise of me to ignore the fact my husband still has a long term mistress? http://helpsaveamarriage.com/blog/i-want-to-save-my-marriage-is-it-wise-of-me-to-ignore-the-fact-my-husband-still-has-a-long-term-mistress/273 Save A Marriage Tips Fri, 02 Mar 2012 18:54:08 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.2 By: eek http://helpsaveamarriage.com/blog/i-want-to-save-my-marriage-is-it-wise-of-me-to-ignore-the-fact-my-husband-still-has-a-long-term-mistress/273/comment-page-1#comment-2896 eek Sun, 17 Jan 2010 12:54:54 +0000 http://helpsaveamarriage.com/blog/i-want-to-save-my-marriage-is-it-wise-of-me-to-ignore-the-fact-my-husband-still-has-a-long-term-mistress/#comment-2896 you should leave him permanently, how can you still want to be with someone after they've betrayed you so harshly? please have some self respect... you should leave him permanently, how can you still want to be with someone after they’ve betrayed you so harshly? please have some self respect…

]]> By: starstrukk http://helpsaveamarriage.com/blog/i-want-to-save-my-marriage-is-it-wise-of-me-to-ignore-the-fact-my-husband-still-has-a-long-term-mistress/273/comment-page-1#comment-2897 starstrukk Sun, 17 Jan 2010 12:54:54 +0000 http://helpsaveamarriage.com/blog/i-want-to-save-my-marriage-is-it-wise-of-me-to-ignore-the-fact-my-husband-still-has-a-long-term-mistress/#comment-2897 If he wants to get back together he should know that it has to be JUST you two, that you won't put up with any of that shit anymore. I would suggest seeing a marriage counsellor, a professional who is not emotionally invested in the relationship, to give advice. If he wants to get back together he should know that it has to be JUST you two, that you won’t put up with any of that shit anymore.

I would suggest seeing a marriage counsellor, a professional who is not emotionally invested in the relationship, to give advice.

]]> By: fa fas http://helpsaveamarriage.com/blog/i-want-to-save-my-marriage-is-it-wise-of-me-to-ignore-the-fact-my-husband-still-has-a-long-term-mistress/273/comment-page-1#comment-2898 fa fas Sun, 17 Jan 2010 12:54:54 +0000 http://helpsaveamarriage.com/blog/i-want-to-save-my-marriage-is-it-wise-of-me-to-ignore-the-fact-my-husband-still-has-a-long-term-mistress/#comment-2898 marriage has MORE TO DO than just SEX. what about his other responsibilities that he has fufilled? sex isn't everything. matter of fact, sex is over rated marriage has MORE TO DO than just SEX.

what about his other responsibilities that he has fufilled?

sex isn’t everything. matter of fact, sex is over rated

]]> By: joe http://helpsaveamarriage.com/blog/i-want-to-save-my-marriage-is-it-wise-of-me-to-ignore-the-fact-my-husband-still-has-a-long-term-mistress/273/comment-page-1#comment-2899 joe Sun, 17 Jan 2010 12:54:54 +0000 http://helpsaveamarriage.com/blog/i-want-to-save-my-marriage-is-it-wise-of-me-to-ignore-the-fact-my-husband-still-has-a-long-term-mistress/#comment-2899 You shouldn't have to ask him. You shouldn’t have to ask him.

]]> By: daljack -a girl http://helpsaveamarriage.com/blog/i-want-to-save-my-marriage-is-it-wise-of-me-to-ignore-the-fact-my-husband-still-has-a-long-term-mistress/273/comment-page-1#comment-2900 daljack -a girl Sun, 17 Jan 2010 12:54:54 +0000 http://helpsaveamarriage.com/blog/i-want-to-save-my-marriage-is-it-wise-of-me-to-ignore-the-fact-my-husband-still-has-a-long-term-mistress/#comment-2900 LOL....I think you should find a guy on the side and then you'll be even. Seriously......I don't know any woman in her right mind who would still be married with this situation going on. The children will respect you more if you respect yourself. LOL….I think you should find a guy on the side and then you’ll be even.

Seriously……I don’t know any woman in her right mind who would still be married with this situation going on.

The children will respect you more if you respect yourself.

]]> By: nickname http://helpsaveamarriage.com/blog/i-want-to-save-my-marriage-is-it-wise-of-me-to-ignore-the-fact-my-husband-still-has-a-long-term-mistress/273/comment-page-1#comment-2901 nickname Sun, 17 Jan 2010 12:54:54 +0000 http://helpsaveamarriage.com/blog/i-want-to-save-my-marriage-is-it-wise-of-me-to-ignore-the-fact-my-husband-still-has-a-long-term-mistress/#comment-2901 since he's had a two year relationship with this homewrecking btch i doubt he will get rid of her. your husband is selfish, he probably thinks it's ok because your kids are almost grown. well, if you want to save your marriage your just going to have to make room in it for her. ask yourself if you can do that? can you stay married to a man and be happy while you share him in all ways financially, sexually, and emotionally with another woman? if the answer is no, then leave him. since he’s had a two year relationship with this homewrecking btch i doubt he will get rid of her. your husband is selfish, he probably thinks it’s ok because your kids are almost grown.

well, if you want to save your marriage your just going to have to make room in it for her.

ask yourself if you can do that? can you stay married to a man and be happy while you share him in all ways financially, sexually, and emotionally with another woman?

if the answer is no, then leave him.

]]> By: Willa http://helpsaveamarriage.com/blog/i-want-to-save-my-marriage-is-it-wise-of-me-to-ignore-the-fact-my-husband-still-has-a-long-term-mistress/273/comment-page-1#comment-2902 Willa Sun, 17 Jan 2010 12:54:54 +0000 http://helpsaveamarriage.com/blog/i-want-to-save-my-marriage-is-it-wise-of-me-to-ignore-the-fact-my-husband-still-has-a-long-term-mistress/#comment-2902 What marriage? You don't seem to have one, actually. What you have is a disrespectful, scornful husband who has left you for another woman but apparently doesn't want a divorce so he won't have to give up his financial assets in a divorce settlement. Why do you want to live in this lala land of a pseudo marriage? What marriage? You don’t seem to have one, actually. What you have is a disrespectful, scornful husband who has left you for another woman but apparently doesn’t want a divorce so he won’t have to give up his financial assets in a divorce settlement. Why do you want to live in this lala land of a pseudo marriage?

]]> By: Shigeru Nakamura http://helpsaveamarriage.com/blog/i-want-to-save-my-marriage-is-it-wise-of-me-to-ignore-the-fact-my-husband-still-has-a-long-term-mistress/273/comment-page-1#comment-2903 Shigeru Nakamura Sun, 17 Jan 2010 12:54:54 +0000 http://helpsaveamarriage.com/blog/i-want-to-save-my-marriage-is-it-wise-of-me-to-ignore-the-fact-my-husband-still-has-a-long-term-mistress/#comment-2903 You shouldn't put up with it. It is not fair for you, unless you are comfortable with an open relationship (A relationship that accepts having multiple men/women involved, at the mutual agreement of both parties) but from your words its clear you aren't. It's going to be hard either way, but ignoring it is going to build up a lot of pain and anger and it will eat you alive which isn't healthy for your mentality. If you stand up for yourself one of two things can happen: 1. He will listen to you, and if he truly loves you he will understand and stop seeing his mistress. 2. He will not listen, and things will have to split apart. I know it will be hard if the latter happens, but trust me, it won't be as painful as ignoring it and penning up your emotions. You shouldn't have to put up with his crap, if he truly loves you he will return to your side. A one sided marriage is not something any man or woman should have to put up with, if the love is true, both parties must be mutual. You shouldn’t put up with it. It is not fair for you, unless you are comfortable with an open relationship (A relationship that accepts having multiple men/women involved, at the mutual agreement of both parties) but from your words its clear you aren’t. It’s going to be hard either way, but ignoring it is going to build up a lot of pain and anger and it will eat you alive which isn’t healthy for your mentality. If you stand up for yourself one of two things can happen:

1. He will listen to you, and if he truly loves you he will understand and stop seeing his mistress.

2. He will not listen, and things will have to split apart.

I know it will be hard if the latter happens, but trust me, it won’t be as painful as ignoring it and penning up your emotions. You shouldn’t have to put up with his crap, if he truly loves you he will return to your side. A one sided marriage is not something any man or woman should have to put up with, if the love is true, both parties must be mutual.

]]> By: howiwishicould http://helpsaveamarriage.com/blog/i-want-to-save-my-marriage-is-it-wise-of-me-to-ignore-the-fact-my-husband-still-has-a-long-term-mistress/273/comment-page-1#comment-2904 howiwishicould Sun, 17 Jan 2010 12:54:54 +0000 http://helpsaveamarriage.com/blog/i-want-to-save-my-marriage-is-it-wise-of-me-to-ignore-the-fact-my-husband-still-has-a-long-term-mistress/#comment-2904 This might sound harsh.. but the fact is that he doesnt care about the relation to be committed enough.. why do you want your marriage to work.. whats left in it.. after he has a affair outside u are taking care of the kids, going through the emotional torture and even if he gets back, the cracks will still be there.. u may ignore, but it will always be inside you that he was unfaithful. believe me, you are better off without him.. Let me tell you one test... the hardest thing to do, is the right thing to do.. so now you can decide This might sound harsh.. but the fact is that he doesnt care about the relation to be committed enough.. why do you want your marriage to work.. whats left in it.. after he has a affair outside

u are taking care of the kids, going through the emotional torture and even if he gets back, the cracks will still be there.. u may ignore, but it will always be inside you that he was unfaithful. believe me, you are better off without him..

Let me tell you one test… the hardest thing to do, is the right thing to do.. so now you can decide

]]> By: cat lover http://helpsaveamarriage.com/blog/i-want-to-save-my-marriage-is-it-wise-of-me-to-ignore-the-fact-my-husband-still-has-a-long-term-mistress/273/comment-page-1#comment-2905 cat lover Sun, 17 Jan 2010 12:54:54 +0000 http://helpsaveamarriage.com/blog/i-want-to-save-my-marriage-is-it-wise-of-me-to-ignore-the-fact-my-husband-still-has-a-long-term-mistress/#comment-2905 If there is anything man do not like it is nagging and you probably do that a lot. Do not say anything a about his girlfriends it will just annoy him. That is what you do if you want you marriage to work If there is anything man do not like it is nagging and you probably do that a lot. Do not say anything a about his girlfriends it will just annoy him. That is what you do if you want you marriage to work

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