I want to save my marriage but husband doesnt?
posted Saturday,
12:39 am
My husband walked out on our marriage after 2 yrs, and we have a lil one together. I love him dearly and I want us to work out, but he’s not willing too. Should I give him the divorce or try to see if he will come around knowing that he has a good women who loves, cares for him dearly.
He tells his family its my fault, that I dont do anything, but yet, I was working a pt job that love so much, come home take care of the house & kids. My other 2 children consider him as a father more then their own father. It just hurts knowing I want to save our marriage and work it out… BUT he doesnt seem to care….
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I think u need to start showing him whos boss. I would stop trying so hard to make him come back n work things out. U only want him to be there if HE wants to be. U will feel worse if he’s only staying for the sake of it. I know it must be hard but try moving on from him, he will soon realise what he has lost when he sees that ur getting on with life. I hope things work out for u, good luck
You being interested in him isn’t going to make him interested in you. He knows you are interested in him, but he’s telling you he isn’t interested in you. Why would you want somebody who isn’t interested in you?
all I can say is don’t get involved w/ anyone until the divorce is final… this will give him time to change his mind… don’t sign, don’t agree to anything… and if he does insist on divorce make sure he pays child support and alimony… good luck…!
Honey, if he says it’s over, it’s over.You can’t tell a person what to do if they have the mind made up.Make sure he supports($) the little one tho.
If hes not into it then theres nothing more you can do
I’m single j/k
if you want to keep him threaten him with child support.
its cheaper to keep her
Seems like you need to have a talk with him to figure out why he feels this way. Maybe it’s something simple that you can resolve soon. Don’t jump to conclusions about anything without talking to him first. Call him right now and ask if you can meet someplace just you and him and no one else to discuss what happened. Don’t raise your voice, talk calmly and put thought into your words before you speak. Don’t play the blame game either. Just tell him you love him and don’t understand what’s going on. Make sure you stress that you miss him and want his touch everyday. Maybe he thinks that you’re taking his priority (man only making money) and making him feel useless. God Bless you. Good Luck. The longer you wait to contact him the harder it will get to talk to him.
You have to give him a divorce if he wants one. Holding him up on one will only make him hate you. Sorry to say this, but it sounds like he has someone else. Don’t let him get away with not paying child support. Good luck
As hard as it might be I think you should give him a divorce. he doesn’t seem interested anymore and having someone like that in your life might kill the loving person you are. Things like these happen I don’t know why but the sooner you get it done the better. He doesn’t deserve you.
Good Luck!
It sounds like he doesnt realise how much effort you have put into your marriage with him.
There is always a reason to a marriage breakdown, either both parties cant get along anymore or they dont love each other or either one could possibly have a new partner.
But for him to leave you for "not doing anything" is a completely absurd reason, to me it sounds like there could be more to this than meets the eye.
The pair of you need to sit down together and discuss what both your options are.
Ask him what you have done so wrong that has made him walk out on you and your marriage (and if you and him could improve things)
If he doesnt give you a good enough reason, your best bet is to ask him if he is seeing someone else.
Good Luck
x
You can’t force someone to do something evern thougth you are convinced that it is in their best interest. Specially when someone is asking you for space or divorce. it will make them angrier at you and more resentful.
So, if after trying to speak to him, he doesn’t want to know, then give him a divorce.
Just tell him that he can stop it anytime.
What’s more, there might be other deeper reasons why he’s desperate for a divorce. Maybe he’s not just angry with you because he feels that you’re not pulling your weight.
Whatever is issue is, let him go, and if he comes to his senses and you are still available and still wants him back then good, if not, then his loss!
You can not save your marriage by yourself and if he isnt interested in doing so..its over!
As much as this situation hurts sometimes it is better to let him go..
He may decide in a while he made a mistake, or he may not.
But trying to force someone to stay when they don’t is not worth it you don’t want that kind of marriage.
You want a marriage that is loving and you have someone who wants to be with you.
Good Luck!
I know it hurts but you have to face the facts here. To be specific, the fact that he is NOT repeat NOT interested in saving this marriage. It won’t work if only one of you is trying. Stop wasting your time. You have your children to think about.
What we have here is a failure to communicate. Problem is, I can’t tell for sure if it’s just you not being clear here, or if you’re not communicating with your husband about why he left you. You say he "tells his family" that you don’t do anything, and that is why he left you, but is that all he’s telling you too? It sounds like an awfully simplistic reason to leave someone. However, you would know — is this something you’ve fought about for months or years? If you honestly believe this is the reason he left you, then the best way to bring him back is to start doing more, to work harder and show him that you are able to sustain it over a long period of time.
You don’t seem interested in doing that, though. You’re still justifying why what you do is enough. So the question is, how badly do you want to save your marriage? Do you want it badly enough for you to work hard for it? If not, don’t expect anything to change.
The decision is you. Do you think he will change his mind? Is it worth ? If you really love him so much maybe you can talk to him once again or give sometimes for you both to cold down before you make your decision.
Good luck.
If he doesn’t want to be married to you, then you should give him the divorce. Not for his sake, but for your sake. All you are doing is hanging on to a man that doesn’t want to be there. He isn’t going to wake up one day and say you know she is the best woman I’ve ever met and change his mind. For whatever reason his mind is made up and trying to hold onto him, is only making him more resolved to go, not more inclined to stay. You need to let him go, so you can start to heal.
Been there and done that……give him the divorce and get yourself into therapy. You’ll save yourself alot of grief. Trust me.
adios