Can I save my marriage, after it seems it has failed?
posted Friday,
7:53 pm
My husband and I argue a lot. It centers from trust issues, we both cheated in the past. I want to save my marriage, I feel insecure. He calls me out of my name, but I might slap him when he does, someone help. I truly love him. He still talks to his ex-sex buddies, I hate that. Help!!
We cheated before the marriage, not during. I just have insecurities when he talks to the ex’s, what am I not doing right?
Related Posts
Filed under: Marriage
Agreed on both points with answer number one.
You have an advantage over most couples. At least you understand the root of the problem. If he gets it, too, then you’ll just need some guidance as opposed to a revelation. I’d say chances could be in your favor.
marriage counseling…nobody should slap anybody…
First both of you need to sit down and talk without arguing Second he needs to cut off communication with his ex-sex buddies if this is going to work. Third you move past and forget about the past and go day to day sort of like starting over. If you can’t do these things then you may want leave.
You both cheated on each other? There is no trust or respect in your marriage. On top of that you can add abuse (you slapping your husband). Seems like there is a lot of hate and resentment going on too.
If you and your husband truly loved each other, then you wouldn’t have cheated on each other. You two don’t have anything good to hold on to in order to save this marriage. Time to throw in the towel and call it quits. The only thing you two have left is to make each other miserable. With all the arguing and slapping going on, you seem to be very successful at doing that.
I’d recommend you check out http://divorcebusting.com/. It has a great forum there and people whose marriages have actually survived infidelity and so forth. It’s not easy but apparently it can be done and I like the site’s approach since it helps people save their marriages but also learn to take good care of themselves and their own needs too.
Good luck!
Im curious to know if he still wants to save the marriage. If he does, he needs to quit talking to those women!!! Maybe he is really really insecure and the attention from the other women makes him feel macho and sexy. You should try to tell him how sexy he looks one day or just grab him and pull him close to you and make him feel hot. That alone definately wont help you though. I think you guys need some counseling. If you are willing to try anything, then do it! Otherwise you may waste the next couple years sad, and feeling unwanted.
Please take some time to answer my question if you can! Thanks. Just click on my name and go under the "questions" tab. It’s the 1st one listed. Thanks!