Husband wants divorce I want to stop it….No kids.. still love him…..?
posted Monday,
1:53 am
my husband left me and just walked out on me 15 days ago.has not called or nothing in 10 days.got divorce papers in the mail where he filed.was a surprise to me !! do not want this divorce,want marriage counsling first.he thinks that this is what i want,he is wrong.still love him and told him all this on his voicemail and email.we have no kids.want to work it out.refuse to sign the papers.i am contesting the divorce.what are my other options and how do i stop this and make him realize that this is a big mistake.?
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How long was you married? You had no idea something was wrong in your marriage? I am not sure you can stop it once he has filed. I think he has to be the one to stop it. Have you tried to figure out what went wrong? I wish you all the luck but once someone has made up their mind he may not want to change it……K
go to the judge and speak what is on your mined
you can’t stop it you have to just hope he changes his mind
TRy getting him to talk to you…tell him how you feel,unless he got someone else
If you have told him that you still love him then there is nothing else that you can do.Try to tell him again how much you love him. Maybe he is the one that wants a divorce because of "other"reasons
Talk to him and see if he would be willing to just go for a separation right now. Then see if he is willing to give the marriage one more try.
Im am so sorry. I was concerned when i saw you guys dont have any kids. Why is that? maybe all he wanted was a family. ask him, i think you guys should meet in a place and talk about problems face to face no matter iff it hurts because it hurts the most when we stay silence
This may sound terrible, but if he is not returning your call, he must no longer be interested. Do you suspect another woman? What he is doing sounds fishy, unless there is another woman behind him. If he doesn’t return your call, you must let him go. Trust me, I know 1st hand how bad this hurts. But it may just be best.
If your husband left and wants a divorce, let him have one. He thinks you want a divorce? well that is so he can blame you for the divorce. He doesn’t want to be blamed and this tells you how immature he really is! He doesn’t want to take the blame for his own actions. Sure you still love him, but by his own actions, he’s telling you, he no longer loves you. Time heals all wounds! good luck!
ASK GOD tO HELP YOU AND YOUR SITUATION. IF YOU TWO ARE MEANT TO BE GOD WILL SAVE THE MARRIAGE. GOOD LUCK.
Wow this is a hard one. My heart goes out to you, because I know what it feels like. In my experience it is best to give him space, show him the person he fell in love with, but DON’T beg.That will make u look weak.Maybe if this doesn’t work it is time to move on, even if it isn’t what u want. But first try everything to anything else. Good luck to you.
I think he has probably made up his mind that he wants a divorce. You say that he thinks this is what you want. Why does he think that? Communication has probably always been an issue in your relationship. It sounds like he isn’t speaking to you or taking your calls. Is it possible that he has met someone else? Without knowing what his reasons are for leaving you, it is difficult to say what you should do. There may be things going on in his life that you aren’t aware of. You have to consider that, when only one of you has the will to make the marriage work, it may not be a healthy marriage to continue. I was still in love with my ex when we split – it was his decision – but looking back I realised that our relationship wasn’t as healthy or happy as I thought. See if you can at least get him to talk to you about what is happening, try to stay calm and level headed. Good luck.
FIRST OFF I AM NOT A PROFESSIONAL BUT CAN I BE HONEST IT SOUNDS ALMOST AS IF HE HAD PLANNED A DIVORCE LONG BEFORE 15 DAYS DO YOU THINK THAT HE IS SEEING SOMEONE ELSE .WELL I DON’T KNOW TO MUCH ON DIVORCE BUT I IMAGINE IT TO BE A VERY PAINFUL ORDEAL FOR YOU I’M SORRY THAT THIS IS SOMETHING THAT YOU ARE GOING THROUGH BUT THERE IS ONE THING I KNOW IS TRIED AND TRUE GO TO THE HAVENLY FATHER ON THIS MATTER JUST SIT TO YOURSELF AND TALK OUT YOUR HEART TO GOD AND TRUST AND BELEVE THAT HE WIL MOVE ON YOUR SITUATION .I WILL BE PRAYING FOR YOU AND PLEASE USE MY EMAIL IF YOU WOULD LIKE TO CHAT.
Sounds like communication has been missing from the marriage. My advice (take it or leave it, is fine with me) is to first talk to him in a calm, understanding way. Find out why he wants the divorce, tell him that you will accept any answer. DON’T argue, just LISTEN. No matter what the answer, it may be good to think it over 24 hours before replying. Then after 24 hours, ask him if there would be anyway he would reconsider. Another thing to do is pray, talk to a minister, and read God’s Word aka the Bible. It has a lot to say about marriage, He invented it, you know.
He’s just not that into you, if he truly loves you, he would be man enough to talk it out first before he filed the paper. Believe me, he’s up to no good, he’s hiding something from you, sounds very fishy, and you deserve a better man! I wish you luck and better happiness as life goes on.
Don’t sign the papers, but consult an attorney. Give him time to cool off and think about it. If he comes back, then put the papers away, or give them to your attorney to keep.