Comments on: husband cheats but not want to talk after to save marriage?

By: uranus2mars

uranus2mars — Thu, 05 Nov 2009 12:40:25 +0000

wow
i got down to him admitting he was a 10% active father and i was amazed to find out that you were still with this loser
no christmas presents for his own children? he has told you about having prostitutes? save the marriage?
oh, dear God, woman…
you need to find yourself a lawyer and get a divorce…it was over a long time ago

By: KMK28

KMK28 — Thu, 05 Nov 2009 12:40:25 +0000

Divorce him. I know that seems like the easy answer, but hun… you cannot make somebody want to be with you or make then want to work it out. Cut your losses and go find someone that deserves you. He clearly does not. Good luck to you and your babies.

By: IT'S JUST LIFE

IT'S JUST LIFE — Thu, 05 Nov 2009 12:40:25 +0000

wow that’s sad…. don’t know hum… pray about it

By: michelle

michelle — Thu, 05 Nov 2009 12:40:25 +0000

Sounds like your marriage was over before you had your baby ("kid", sounds awful). He cheated, he doesn’t care, he’s not even a good father… Why stay with such an a.s.s.h.o.l.e.?

By: Maalru3

Maalru3 — Thu, 05 Nov 2009 12:40:25 +0000

It’s over. Get out. You can’t stay in a marriage for kids sake, clearly he isn’t a big part of them and by staying with him, you are teaching them to choose a man or life style just like you are living in. YOu need to be a mother wolf and protect your cubs. This man isn’t going to wake up and be a different man tomarrow, he clearly isn’t invested in the marriage and it would take 2 to fix it with a lot of hard work. So your choice is, to stay in this and be lonely, have another kid and see even less of him and coldness twards you and kids, or get out, struggle some to make ends meet, but do it yourself, have a home of your own, not wait on a man to come home who isn’t interested, but focus on you and children, get back in life and yourself, possibly meet someone who loves , respects, and enjoys you. also who won’t cheat. So those are your 2 choices, make one, do you want to be strong, or do you want to be weak. Do you want your kids to live in marriages like this? then why would you live in one like this. YOu can’t change him, stop trying. No excuse for what he did, he exposed you to god knows what, he cheated on you and your kids. He has told you plainly that he isn’t happy, tell him to leave, what more do you need. Face the reality. I am divorced, I got over it, I’m very happy with happy kids and a comfortable home life. it’s great. I became that mother wolf.

By: rslthh

rslthh — Thu, 05 Nov 2009 12:40:25 +0000

Do you have any self esteem left? If not, do you want it back? Get the HELL out! How much does he have to treat you like a doormat before you say "I don’t deserve this?". Or do you think you do? Try this. Think about what is best for your child, which is what’s best for her (and even the unfeeling courts look at that) and do the right thing. Once you had child, it stopped being all about you. Do what’s best for her for heaven sakes!

By: Ken H

Ken H — Thu, 05 Nov 2009 12:40:25 +0000

You husband seems to have regressed to the mental aptitude of your newborn. May God help you. I suggest that you leave him. He has already abandoned you and your child. Staying with the one who betrayed you in such a manner is a tough choice to make. You are fortunate to be a woman in that the courts will give you that precious gift of life to nurture into something special.

By: jan2281

jan2281 — Thu, 05 Nov 2009 12:40:25 +0000

you have one life…enjoy it…don’t waste your time on someone like that im sure you can do much better, and the child deserves better too…let him leave… i wouldn’t waste another day. things will get better. once a cheater always a cheater..my opinion…best wishes

By: cmd3982

cmd3982 — Thu, 05 Nov 2009 12:40:25 +0000

DUMP THIS LOSER !!! NOW !!!

By: eillem123

eillem123 — Thu, 05 Nov 2009 12:40:25 +0000

Get a good attorney, divorce him, get all the alimony & child support you can out of this total loser. Besides being hideously selfish, he is also unforgiveably CRUEL. I am so sorry you have lived with such an unfeeling monster for so long. Please get out soon before he damages the child any further and get a new, happier life for yourselves!