Comments on: How to save my marriage? http://helpsaveamarriage.com/blog/how-to-save-my-marriage-2/227 Save A Marriage Tips Sat, 04 Sep 2010 20:33:11 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.0 By: Gretta http://helpsaveamarriage.com/blog/how-to-save-my-marriage-2/227/comment-page-1#comment-2421 Gretta Tue, 01 Dec 2009 19:11:26 +0000 http://helpsaveamarriage.com/blog/how-to-save-my-marriage-2/#comment-2421 I think your husband still loves you, but that there is deep hurt within the relationship. Hurtful words and continual neglect on your part could make him resentful and cold to you. Also, if you have given up your position as loving wife to be loving mother and spend what little time the two of you have together argueing...well, he might be hurt about that also. I don't think it's as much the weight as how you are acting toward him, but I'm sure loosing a few pounds would help spark your love life :). My advice is to purchase the book "The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands". It is wonderful!!!! It really puts into perspective, what a man wants and needs in marriage and how giving him what he wants and needs, makes the wife happy as well. Marriage is hard work for both people involved. Most of the time what we put into something is what we get in return. So think of it that way. Would you expect full-time pay for part-time work? Tonight when your man comes home, have a hot meal on the table for him. Have your hair and makeup fixed, legs shaved, nice outfit, nails polished, his favorite perfume, and get a baby-sitter for the little one for a couple of hours. Tell him that this is the start of a new you and a new relationship for the two of you. Tell him how much you love and need him and that you have taken for granted everything that he does for you , but that is about to change because as his wife your sole purpose is to make him proud to be your husband. Talk, that's what you need to do. Let it all out and let him share his feelings. Make a lifestyle change for yourself, not a diet. Start eating right and exercising. This will make YOU feel better about YOU, which in turn will make you happier and a more enjoyable person to be around. Mayber alot of your jealousy stems from your low self-esteem related to your weight gain. That is easily remedied. Start today!!! http://www.drlaura.com/blog/2007/11/16/thoughts-from-a-soon-to-be-ex-husband/#more-57 Copy and paste this address and read the article. Its sad really. Dr. Laura is also the author of the book I recommended. I wish you the best and God bless!!! I think your husband still loves you, but that there is deep hurt within the relationship. Hurtful words and continual neglect on your part could make him resentful and cold to you. Also, if you have given up your position as loving wife to be loving mother and spend what little time the two of you have together argueing…well, he might be hurt about that also. I don’t think it’s as much the weight as how you are acting toward him, but I’m sure loosing a few pounds would help spark your love life :) .
My advice is to purchase the book "The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands". It is wonderful!!!! It really puts into perspective, what a man wants and needs in marriage and how giving him what he wants and needs, makes the wife happy as well.
Marriage is hard work for both people involved. Most of the time what we put into something is what we get in return. So think of it that way. Would you expect full-time pay for part-time work?
Tonight when your man comes home, have a hot meal on the table for him. Have your hair and makeup fixed, legs shaved, nice outfit, nails polished, his favorite perfume, and get a baby-sitter for the little one for a couple of hours. Tell him that this is the start of a new you and a new relationship for the two of you. Tell him how much you love and need him and that you have taken for granted everything that he does for you , but that is about to change because as his wife your sole purpose is to make him proud to be your husband. Talk, that’s what you need to do. Let it all out and let him share his feelings.
Make a lifestyle change for yourself, not a diet. Start eating right and exercising. This will make YOU feel better about YOU, which in turn will make you happier and a more enjoyable person to be around. Mayber alot of your jealousy stems from your low self-esteem related to your weight gain. That is easily remedied. Start today!!!
http://www.drlaura.com/blog/2007/11/16/thoughts-from-a-soon-to-be-ex-husband/#more-57
Copy and paste this address and read the article. Its sad really. Dr. Laura is also the author of the book I recommended.

I wish you the best and God bless!!!

]]> By: surfinlizrd222 http://helpsaveamarriage.com/blog/how-to-save-my-marriage-2/227/comment-page-1#comment-2422 surfinlizrd222 Tue, 01 Dec 2009 19:11:26 +0000 http://helpsaveamarriage.com/blog/how-to-save-my-marriage-2/#comment-2422 lose weight but he should love you so idk lose weight but he should love you so idk

]]> By: Peter C http://helpsaveamarriage.com/blog/how-to-save-my-marriage-2/227/comment-page-1#comment-2423 Peter C Tue, 01 Dec 2009 19:11:26 +0000 http://helpsaveamarriage.com/blog/how-to-save-my-marriage-2/#comment-2423 of course he still love you. Do you still love him?? If you still love him, be more faith,concern for him. i believe he can feel it. right? of course he still love you. Do you still love him?? If you still love him, be more faith,concern for him. i believe he can feel it. right?

]]> By: simple_dimples21 http://helpsaveamarriage.com/blog/how-to-save-my-marriage-2/227/comment-page-1#comment-2424 simple_dimples21 Tue, 01 Dec 2009 19:11:26 +0000 http://helpsaveamarriage.com/blog/how-to-save-my-marriage-2/#comment-2424 have a heart to heart talk w/ your husband. tell him all your feelings. ask him waht u want him to do & everything. have a heart to heart talk w/ your husband. tell him all your feelings. ask him waht u want him to do & everything.

]]> By: rumplestiltskin12357 http://helpsaveamarriage.com/blog/how-to-save-my-marriage-2/227/comment-page-1#comment-2425 rumplestiltskin12357 Tue, 01 Dec 2009 19:11:26 +0000 http://helpsaveamarriage.com/blog/how-to-save-my-marriage-2/#comment-2425 Are you still the person he married? If you weren't jealous before, then don't be now. If you put on the weight suddenly, then you can loose it suddenly. Are you still the person he married?
If you weren’t jealous before, then don’t be now.
If you put on the weight suddenly, then you can loose it suddenly.

]]> By: free_angel http://helpsaveamarriage.com/blog/how-to-save-my-marriage-2/227/comment-page-1#comment-2426 free_angel Tue, 01 Dec 2009 19:11:26 +0000 http://helpsaveamarriage.com/blog/how-to-save-my-marriage-2/#comment-2426 Tell him he better start showing that he wants you. Tell him he better start showing that he wants you.

]]> By: jakemcqueen http://helpsaveamarriage.com/blog/how-to-save-my-marriage-2/227/comment-page-1#comment-2427 jakemcqueen Tue, 01 Dec 2009 19:11:26 +0000 http://helpsaveamarriage.com/blog/how-to-save-my-marriage-2/#comment-2427 love is something that is a natural thing. a person cannot make someone love them this is something that is from their side of the heart, so you had his baby and now you have gotten a little fat .. size weight and all others things should not interrupt love ..love is for keeps no matter what changes, looks and things like that goes beyond the factor of real love..it seems to me that this man never loved you in the first place ..when two marry its for keeps in my opinion and nothing should ever separate people who are truly and earnestly in love... first thing you should do is pray about this and put you life in the hands of the lord God of heaven and seek his will for you life... love is something that is a natural thing. a person cannot make someone love them this is something that is from their side of the heart, so you had his baby and now you have gotten a little fat .. size weight and all others things should not interrupt love ..love is for keeps no matter what changes, looks and things like that goes beyond the factor of real love..it seems to me that this man never loved you in the first place ..when two marry its for keeps in my opinion and nothing should ever separate people who are truly and earnestly in love… first thing you should do is pray about this and put you life in the hands of the lord God of heaven and seek his will for you life…

]]> By: Don http://helpsaveamarriage.com/blog/how-to-save-my-marriage-2/227/comment-page-1#comment-2428 Don Tue, 01 Dec 2009 19:11:26 +0000 http://helpsaveamarriage.com/blog/how-to-save-my-marriage-2/#comment-2428 From what I can understand is that your husband is cold because he may feel that you don't trust him any more which has brought this on, I would sit and talk to him about how you feel but more to the point of how he feels make it about him, maybe the weight thing is some of the problem but I don't believe it is the whole problem I think there is a deeper underlying problem that has pushed him away from you, if he is still with you then yes I believe he still loves you, you may have a lot of work ahead of you good luck and I hope everything works out. PS. just out of interest did this start to happen soon after the birth of your child ?. if so he may be feeling unwanted and unloved because as we parents know having a child and looking after them take up a lot of your time and tend to distance parents from a one on one social evening . Just a thought. From what I can understand is that your husband is cold because he may feel that you don’t trust him any more which has brought this on, I would sit and talk to him about how you feel but more to the point of how he feels make it about him, maybe the weight thing is some of the problem but I don’t believe it is the whole problem I think there is a deeper underlying problem that has pushed him away from you, if he is still with you then yes I believe he still loves you, you may have a lot of work ahead of you good luck and I hope everything works out.

PS. just out of interest did this start to happen soon after the birth of your child ?. if so he may be feeling unwanted and unloved because as we parents know having a child and looking after them take up a lot of your time and tend to distance parents from a one on one social evening . Just a thought.

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