How do I stop this divorce?
I made a stupid mistake. I was influenced by my single friends and family, and asked my husband for a divorce a year after we got married. We had problems right away and the feminist in me put my feet in cement and wouldn’t bend to some of the things my husband was asking of me as his wife.
I listened to people tell me not to cook for him, or do his laundry. I would come to be in PJs from head to toe instead of lingerie like he wanted. In the bigger scheme of things, he wasn’t asking for much. My friends were calling him controlling, chauvanistic, etc & I listened.
I went to church yesterday and the pastor was talking about roles and responsibilities in a marriage & I started crying. I realize that if my friends were so knowledgeable they wouldn’t all be single.
My husband begged me not to file for divorce & to try counseling. I didn’t listen. Now we have to go to court next month and I don’t want to divorce him. He was a good boyfriend/fiancee & I never gave him a chance to be a good husband. I tried to call him and text him yesterday. I left him a few messages saying that I really wanted to talk to him & it was important, but he hasn’t responded. That isn’t like him.
What can I do to stop this from a legal perspective? Can I stop the divorce without his consent?
Do you think I have any chance in hell of getting my husband back?
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Hello,
I also go to Church and have heard messages being said by the Priest that directly influenced me or gave me a message that I have been looking for, etc. It sounds as though God was trying to send you a message about what has happened and wanted you to see the bigger picture. Just have faith in God and his works, pray that things will change. It is a free country, so if you wanted to stop the divorce process, you should be able to. I would cancel the divorce hearing once you know he is back in your life, the last thing you want is canceling and then finding out you have to start all over again. Just keep calling from time to time. If you know where he is currently living, go there. If it was me and you were my significant other and showed up unexpectedly, I would be shocked and likely see that as you truly do care if you were willing to go all out of your way like that if I was still in love. Just pray for God’s guidance, he has mysterious ways of communicating to us. Hope this helps.
If he wants a divorce now, there is nothing going to stop it. You don’t both have to agree for the divorce to go thru and happen.
I’d tell him what you want to talk to him about and see if he returns your calls, if not, then he has moved on and you need to also. You need to consider it a lesson learned and not repeat the same mistakes next time around.
You can always stop it if you’re the one who filed. The problem is, the courts (or attorneys) will contact him and let him know that you’ve stopped the proceedings and ask him if he agrees. He may be so upset that he’ll want to continue with the divorce. Keep trying to contact him, maybe tell him on voice mail what your thinking, and maybe he’ll get back to you.
i feel so sorry for you, you have made a mistake but it invovled the person you loved, text him that you love him, he will phone you back, dont tell him what you told us about your friends and family, go councilling asap, good luck i hope he will try again for both your sakes xxx
since ur the one that filed for divorce you can stop it.. and im going through the same thing right now and are going to see a councelor soon, i say just hang on and honor those vows.. i mean u tried to make it work your way and it absolutely hasnt now try the mairrage out from his perspective and see how the things go.
It’s good you’ve figured out the mistake. Do you think it just a little mistake? Do you think that he wouldn’t hurt by your mistake? Do you really want him back? Why didn’t you come to him? Do you think a phone call or an sms is enough?
You might think that he’s not like him. But look by his perspective! You’re not like his girlfriend/fiance he got last year! I’m sorry that I’ve gotta tell you. You spit on his pride!
Babe… you must go! Run for your love! Tell him with your heart, not emotion ! But you must also realised that you’ve done many things that hurt him, his pride as a man. Don’t ask him to go along with you just right away. It may takes few times. You must be patient, okay?
i think that you guys still have a chance. you just need to tell him that you realize your mistakes. and that you really want another chance. you need to swallow your pride and talk to him face to face
Don’t be so hard on yourself, at least you learned from this. You already tried calling him, now write him a letter. The rest will be up to him. Never be a pest by calling and pleading, keep your dignity by letting him know how wrong you now can see you were. State your case from your heart at the same time let him know that if he should not be willing to work on the marriage that you will respect his decision and accept it. Then you leave him alone. In time he will come to think more about what you said and if he truly cares and believes you he will come back. Good luck to you!
Of course you do. I mean, don’t give up. You can call the court house and tell them you have to reschedule the court date. That way it will give you more time to talk to him. He may be afraid to get hurt too. Maybe that’s why he isn’t returning your calls.
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Yes there is a chance. I can help you in both aspects (legal & counseling). Please feel free to email me direct: Lou@attainmentlife.com
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