how do i stop my parents from getting a divorce?
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how can i stop my mom from divorcing my dad? i no she fed up with him but how can i stop it?!?!? i tried the "u promised in front of god and everyone that you and dad would stay together forever" but it didn’t work i am a 13yearold boy whos going Fu##### insane! i coulden’t stand living without my dad he is my idol! so how can i stop this!
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Honestly, you can’t stop it.
If they want to get a divorce it’s because their love is no longer there.
You don’t want them to live a miserable life together.
It’s best if they go their own separate ways
with less fighting.
Who knows they can end up being friends after the divorce.
it is none of your business and your emotions, opinions, whatever, do not matter.
i hate drunk men and lazy men
my folks divorced when i was 8 and it was the worst day of my life. but then i saw how happy my parents became without eachother fighting. its the right thing to do by letting them divorce im 13 and im fine. ull still be able to see your dad but if u really luv him ull let him be happy and let them go their seperate ways.
tie them together with rope and duct tape
gl
You cant stop divorce. They have fallen out of love, it happens. My parents divorced when I was 4, its not easy but it gets better with time.
uhhhh…hmmm…u cant!!!! sorry but its their problem and you’ll have to work it out in the end with whatever happens!!!!! (im going through the same problemo…and it really is sucky)
if the 2 of them aren’t happy then you want them to stay in HELL. if they’re apart maybe they will be more civil to each other, also if they’re apart maybe they can have time to think and possibly get back together
tc
Unfortunately this situation is out of your control. I would share your concerns with you parents and or a counselor if possible. I wish you luck.
You can’t stop it. there could be problems much deeper then you realize. Parents divorce for reasons beyond your control or what your are capable of understanding. Its something you will have to learn to accept. Your dad will always be your dad, just because they aren’t married doen’t mean they don’t love you or they stop being your parent. If you haven’t already sit them down and tell them how you feel.
You cant stop them… its their divorce, not yours…. Why would you want them to stay together if they are miserable???? I stayed with my ex for 31 years, we got our sons raised, put them through college, and then I left…. The boys asked me why it took so long……….. well let them go… you deserve two happy parents, not miserable ones………… you will be fine, and NO you dont have to take sides……. just love them both…
I am truly sorry for your pain but on an honest note, your parents are gonna do what they feel is best. I know you dont want to hear this because it might taking growing up a little to understand it but sometimes people are better off seperated. I know you see only the worse is to come, but think about this you’ll have two houses, 2 rooms, still be with both parents, and at least still have them in your life instead of them not being there. Divorce is heartbreaking it is actually worse but most important thing to know is that your parents wont stop loving you and that you’ll get through it. Ho,d on to your faith and sit your parents down, down yell but let your emotions spill out gte if off your chest. Tell them exactly how you feel. Make them listen and ask questions. hang in there bud, you’re so NOT alone
hi hon.
first of all, it’s not your place to tell your parents what they need as a couple. i know you’re scared and in pain over this, and it’s normal. actually, older children, such as you feel the effects of divorce more harshly than younger kids do.
if your parents divorce, it doesn’t mean your dad will be gone from your life, forever or even one day… you probably have the option of choosing who to live with and also, you will be able to visit the other parent also.
right now you might need some good advice, and support, so i have listed some sources below. i hope that you can find answers to your questions. also, it might be a good idea to CALMLY talk with your parents.. instead of trying to tell them what to do let them know how you FEEL.
that may not change their feelings about each other, but you deserve support care and attention as well.
hugs.
You can’t stop it from happening.
It’s sad, I know, but believe me, it is probably for the better.
most children born after 1970 are products of divorce or a 2nd marriage. you are not alone. i know it sounds harsh, but you will get over it.
your parents marriage is just that theirs. its not really your place to try and save it. and please, dont try to guilt them into staying together.
your parents are not happy and if they stay together their unhappiness will create a cloud of dread in the household. let the grownups make their own decisions.
don’t your parents deserve to be happy?, don’t they deserve to be able to live their lives with out fights and arguments ?…. its hard for you (I have been throught it) but your not losing your dad at all you will still see him and be with him ..just not everyday , you will also find that your life will be better as well with less tension and worry on your part with no more friction in the home …. so its not the end of your world …its a new begining if you can just get past your selfishness
sorry to say but u cant and u shouldn’t be mad or upset with ur mom about leaving your dad she is not happy and she has to make herself happy you still will have ur dad and i sure that he will still be in ur life just think if ur mom stayed with ur dad 4ever unhappy things in ur household would be bad and u wouldn’t be able to the best mom possible because she would be so angry for staying with ur dad for you . i know it’s hard but there is nothing that you can do
I am so sorry for you. Divorce is not easy for anyone who goes through this process. It is especially hard on the children who most of the time, love both parents and don’t want to be apart from either one. No one wants to choose sides when they love both of them. Sometimes things just don’t work out and your feelings are not considered when the final decision is made. Please tell your parents that you want to be a part of the custody arrangements and that you want to be able to see your Dad whenever you can. A divorce will not affect the feelings you have for your Dad or those that he has for you. Both of you have broken hearts. I don’t know that you can stop it but you should have a say in the matter. I hope that your Dad will live close by and that your Mom will allow you to see him as often as you can. Ask them to let you speak with a counsellor who can help you express your feelings and maybe talk with both of your parents about what is and is not fair for you. (I think it is very important, also for you to let your parents know that you will not tolerate either of them badmouthing the other.) Tell them that your love for both of them is very important to you and that you will not have them treat the other disrespectfully. You are entitled to having civility in your home and they need to honor your request.
In a marriage there are lots of things that happen behind close doors that our children dont know about and dont have any business of knowing about. If your parents are getting a divorce its probably something they have discussed long and hard and there is probably nothing you can do about it sorry. Just because your parents will no longer be married doesn’t mean that you can’t have anything to do with your dad he is and always will be your dad. If yall are close then chances are that you will have lots of time to spend with each other. Just think now when you are visiting your dad you guys can do guys stuff and not have to worry about girls get in the way.
Dont worry about adult stuff things are gonna work out for the best for you!!
Good Luck and keep your head up!
You can’t stop it. Its her life and their marriage. Although it affects you, they will decide what they want to do.
You will not have to live without your dad. You could choose to live with him or you could remain close to him through visitation and phone calls.
They are your parents and they love you. They will always love you. So, love them,too. Understand that they are not happy and that there have been relationship issues that they have kept private. Since you love them and want them to be happy, tell them how you fell and reassure them that you will love and support them in whatever they decide.
Freaking out and acting out will help no one. Expressing how you feel, caring for one another and supporting one another will make a difficult time much easier to handle.
You can’t stop your parents from divorcing but youjust need to remember that its not your fault and that it best for the 2 of them. That does not mean that you will live without either of your parents but that does mean that you can’t be selfish and you have to be willing to forgive both of them. There divorce is going to hurt not only you, but them and even people around you all but you have to undestand that your parents would be doing this if they didnot feel it was that right thing, not that I’m saying divorce is right but sometimes its necessary
U cant, the issues they have are between the two of them although u are the one that loses in the end.. its something they have to choose to do for themselves..
My suggestion to u is to tell them how u feel, how its affecting you, how hurt u are, etc.. Just be honest.. of how YOU feel.. dont try any tricks, or excuses, just be yourself and tell them from your heart what this is putting you through and how much u wish for them to atleast do all they can before throwing in the towel.. like counseling..
If that doesnt work u have to give up, and try to make the best of it.. and hun if u want to live with ur dad, let them both know.. ur 13 so u will have a "decent" chance of getting ur wishes unless ur parents and/or a judge feel u need to be with your mom.. ,
My parents are divorced, and yeah it hurts, and there will always be a part of u that wishes things could be different, and a part of u that will never get over the pain.., but it does get better with time.. and im sure ur dad loves u a great deal, and whether he is in the same house or not, wont change that, and they do have situations were kids live part of the time with their mom, and part of the time with their dad.. either every other week, or every six months .. so those may be some options for u as well..
And although im sure u dont want to hear about this at this point, there is a small bonus to having divorced parents, although u’d much rather have them together then any bonus, i understand that, but u do get 2 x-mas’ , 2 birthdays, 2 of everything just about.. so that is a plus i know not a great thing, but its something..
But there are things going on between ur mom and dad that u dont know about things that arent any concern of yours, and these are things u’ll learn to understand more when ur an adult urself..
I use to wish my parents back together, but now that im an adult.. and have had a pretty good life as a kid.. even for a divorced house, i think even if someone had a magic wand , i wouldnt change things, because my dad married a wonderful woman who i now call mom, and she makes him happier then i ever saw him.. ( my dad had custody of me, and my mom is the one that left) And me and my real mom are best friends, and i saw her on holidays and every other weekend.. and it was great going ot her house cause she spoiled us rotten while we were with her.. so it had its advantages, and i couldnt of asked for a better dad.. he is the greatest.. so my family just got bigger, and better after all the pain subsided..
Just talk to them.. ask them to try more before giving up.. tell them how u feel, how this is tearing u up inside, who u want to live with, etc.. hopefully they will "hear" ur plead and atleast try atleast one more time..
i am truly sorry to hear that your parents are divorcing…i cant even imagine what i would do without both of my parents…unfortunately there isnt much you can do…them divorcing doesnt mean they dont "love each other" it just means they arent "in love with each other"…i dont think there is anything you can say or do that will change their minds…who knows maybe things will be a lot better once they are separated…just because you arent going to have your dad living at your house doesnt mean it will be the end of the world…he loves you…and hopefully your mom will let you see him as frequently as you want… i wish you all the best…keep your head up and know that this will be for the better…you might not understand it now but as you get older you will
My parents just told me they were getting a divorce! They were married for 16 years! I’m 15, I can’t stop crying and thinking of how they ruined my life, is there any thing I can do to stop them from getting a divorce