How do I stop a divorce???
posted Saturday,
3:30 am
My husband says he wants a divorce. We’ve had marital problems for a year in our marriage of two years. I still love him and I want to believe he’ll change his mind about it. There’s a lot of other stuff too. We have a baby and we’re both 20 and immature. Is there anything I can do to stop the already happening divorce? I’ve heard a lot of stories where people work it out. I’m just not sure what to do. We’re currently separated.
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It can only work if you both work at it. He has to change his mind
You can only stop it if he agrees. Maybe see if he will go to mediation and discuss things. You might still end up divorced but you would have a better chance at being civil with each other. Then, who knows, a lot of people get remarried after some time apart to grow.
You cant make someone love you. If it is broken, it might not be able to be fixed. You dont go into enough as to why you are divorcing so I cant really tell you anything more specific, but if the paperwork has started already, then someone is definately serious about calling it quits.
probably not….if he wants a divorce there isnt a lot you can do. It will just happen again if you fix it temporarily
doesnt sound like he feels the same about you hun. let him go. focus on the baby
it sounds like it is over,get a lawyer to represent you you need full custody and child support
If he wants it it will come, whether you show up or not it will come, you can drag things out by demanding unreasonable things, but that will only make it a bitter divorce, but a divorce nun the less.
Well, if he is determined to get a divorce………I really don’t think you can stop it because most states don’t have to have the other spouse’s signature to get a final decree of divorce or divorce order. But, you can plead with him to go to marriage counseling and maybe find a good counselor thru your local church.
If he isn’t willing to work it out then no there isn’t a damn thing you can do. You can’t force someone to love you and frankly would you really want to?
There is nothing that you can do if he doesn’t want to put in the work with you. Im sorry I know that is not what you want to hear. I wish you luck and courage.
on your own there is no way to stop a petition for divorce. talk to your husband about this. tell him what you are willing to do to make the marriage work, ask him for what you need from him. perhaps ask for a moratorium on legal proceedings to give you tow kids a chance to preserve your family. do it immediately.
Try not to bank on "wanting to believe" he’ll change his mind. if you both still love each other, maybe you could try couples counseling. unfortunately though, if both hearts aren’t in the relationship, you just have to be as mature about a separation as possible for your baby.
u cant ,if hes bound & bent on getting a divorce , hell have one ,and pay for it & child support & if your not working or capable of working ,get allamony.If all else fails and u dont want anyother woman to have him ,BLOW the S>O>B> away
You cant, iam sorry he turned out to be such a bad choice. If he isnt willing to stick around its a deeper issue with him that will cause other problems.
I think its time for you to move on with your life and move forward, because what you are saying here is a true sign of a dead marriage. Sounds like you were both too young to marry in the first place and when your that young, you think you know what you want in a partner, when you really don’t. Don’t stop the divorce even though its going to upset you, as your life will take a new turn and you’ll meet someone very nice, but make sure this time that the new person has all the criteria you want in someone.
you need to sit down and talk to him… TALK not fight… or argue. you both need to tell each other how you really feel and be honest. since you have a baby it is worth it to give it another shot. you are really young and at your age it is hard to make rational decisions. just sit down and tell each other what you want.. out of life, your relationship, whatever.. and if you miss him, tell him!
You can’t impose your will on any other human being without their full cooperation.
If it is his will that he no longer be with you, then you are powerless to change that.
No, you cannot stop the divorce, if one person wants out of the marriage you cannot force them to stay.
This will only make all of you miserable and you need to think of what this drama will do to the baby..
The children always come first they are the top priority….
You can suggest to your husband marriage counseling but he must agree to this, and he may go just to appease you and the courts and still continue with the divorce.
Best of Luck
maybe he does love you. I was 20 and married with a baby. I realized one day that my future is now controlled by a wife, kids, and all the responsibilities that go along with being a daddy and a husband. I stuck it out for as long as possible.
It is so hard. just be strong.
my experience is that he does love you. He is dealing with the loss of control for his own destiny. He probably sees his friends having money, fun, and freedom and is thinking that he is missing greener pastures. ]
Try dividing the household and parental responsibilities so you each know what is going on and maybe may sure you take time our for yourselves. let him have a guys night out and you have a girls night out. You are still young and I am sure you have the urge to go wild once in a while
You cant change his mind if its not meant to be there is nothing you can do. You can always try to be friends with him and that is the best thing for your child as well.
Life does move on.
suggest marital counseling. if he says no then it means he’s already moved on to someone else. if this is the case then i suggest you just try to start a new life w/your child and set a good example of being good co-parents. it’s a little easier since the child is young.
age has very little to do with marriage,it’s the people,clearly the pair of you weren’t mature enough to make a commitment. i do applaud you for getting married first and then starting a family. sorry it didn’t work out. even with older couples some marriages don’t make either. best wishes.
Yes, you can go to a lawyer and contest it….you can hold it up for quite a few years too but you must have grounds such as wanting some benefits etc. But why would you want to stop this divorce if this is really what he wants, that would not be fair to try and hold on to someone this way if he doesn’t want to be married to you anymore….except it hon and don’t make it more painful than it has to be.