How do I stop a divorce??????? HELP!!!!!!!!!!!?
This is the first time they’ve ever acted like this. My dad wants to divorce my mom, because they don’t see each other enough. They hardly ever see each otherr. My dad says that "every answer she says is no. Do you want to watch a movie? She says no. Do you want to go out? Again no. Do you want to make love? No." My dad goes to bed and wakes up earlier than my mom, and my mom wakes up later and goes to bed later than my dad. They used to go on a ‘date night’ they would call it every Tuesday a while back, but that stopped. My dad also complains, "She’s always gone Friday nights with her best friend – Sharon. I think she should marry Sharon instead of me. (She does her hobby in the antique bussiness and also sells dolls every Friday and occasionally Sundays.) Also, I always take the kids to skating practice. I ask her to, and surprisingly (not) she says no. I always skate the session lonely without her, but I can talk to other parents." I really wish they’d be like they used to be all happy and perfect. Do you have any gift ideas for my mom to give to my dad? Please help.
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You can’t buy a marriage back together. Your Dad is entitled to his own opinions without interference.
Let go of trying to fix it because it is impossible for you to do.
You can’t change how you mum feels.
The only possible thing that might help is to tell your dad to go tell your mum how he feels
You can’t stop a divorce. If your parents are going to break up, it’s going to happen. And it will have nothing to do with you or your siblings, if you have any. As for gift ideas… if they never do anything together, organize a date for them. A gift certificate for dinner and/or a movie. Or… organize something at home for them. Like the date night they use to have.
At this point it is probably too late. The problem is that it is not your job to keep them together. If they do not want to do it on their own then no one can do it for them. Forget the Hollywood stuff. It is a nice thing, but it does not happen in the real world.
Get counseling for your self. They would rather pay for your coulselingciling than work it out themselves.
well sounds like its your moms fault maybe she should ask him those questions and when he says no she will no what it feels like to be turned down maybe she should make love to him or go to the movies
There really is not anything you can do. Your parents are adults.
What you might try, however, is ask them to please at least try marriage counseling before making any decision. Ask them to do it for you, if not for themselves. They may or may not cooperate.
Tell they you are unhappy when they are unhappy and that you want things to be peaceful again.
Good luck to you, sweetie.
Girl, your mom has a problem in her brain where she can’t stop to think before saying no. This is not your problem but your father’s since he choose her as a wife.
Your mom is totally isolating your father, do not take sides let them figure out what to do, when one person doesn’t want to work in the relationship the whole marriage goes down. You make sure to get a good husband and make sure not to be like your mom.
It sounds like a gift wouldn’t help a whole lot. Without knowing any more details, I’d say your parents’ relationship is in need of some marital counseling. You might want to steer them in that direction. They have little to lose if they’re talking divorce.
Communication is the key. There is a reason why your mom says "No" to everything, sometimes couple stop talking about what bothers them and that is how the problems start.
Another way to help save a marriage is couples therapy.
First all, I can’t imagine what your feeling…I’m sorry.
To asnwer your question, I think your dad seems like the kinda guys who just wants some quality time, no-matter what he does with you mum he’s gunna be happy as long as it’s with her. So how about your mum take the kids somewhere (like your friends houses or something) she goes to pick up a movie and some takeout and go home and sit down with your dad, cuddle up on the couch and just watch the movie. That way it only them, no-one else, and if they wanna talk they can or they just relax and watch the movie. Its simple but nice and cozy.
Hope this helps
in many cases, the split-up occurs because one parent is guilty of cheating on the other, or some divorces, admittedly are obtained on flimsy grounds. rather than work out their problems, some divorce because they claim they are unhappy or no longer in love.
Whatever the case, the fact that your parents may have chosen to be silent or to give you only vague answers to your questions regarding the divorce does not mean they do not love you.
What You Can Do
Try to discern the right time to discuss calmly your concerns with your parents. Let them know how saddened and confused you are over the divorce. Perhaps they will give you a satisfactory explanation.
‘I Can Get Them Back Together’
Some youths nurture dreams of reuniting their parents, perhaps clinging to such fantasies even after their parents have remarried!
However, denying the divorce changes nothing. And all the tears, pleading, and scheming in the world probably won’t get your folks back together again.
Unfortunately, you are the child, and your parents want their relationship to be this way. Something may have happened that they didn’t tell you, so you only have what you see and here. You can try to ask them both to sit with you and discuss this in an adult manner. More than likely they won’t. What you do have to do is to be there for both, try not to pick sides, and give them love, for that is what they need now in this time of mutual unhappiness.