How do i save my marriage?
posted Wednesday,
5:48 am
Today is my 2nd marriage anniversary, and I feel like I have made the biggest mistake of my life. I feel very low today. Half the time we have been fighting over nothing. My wife does not like my mother or sister. She is very selfish. I was very discipline in my sex life before marriage and after marriage even till now, I want to cheat on my wife just to feel happy that at least she does not get a husband who does not cheat.
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When you get married your first priority is to your wife, not your mother or siblings or anybody else for that matter!
Marriage early on is not a picnic anyway, but forsaking all others was part of your vows.
Man, let me tell you right now, For the next 50 years you have to treat her like you did when you first got married. You have already forgotten how to look deeply into her eyes and be romantic. Take her to a nice resort occasionally get into a hot tub. you know, wine dine and sixty ****
what you need to do is look at her like you did the very first time you laid eyes on her!
I’ve been cheated on and If you do this I hope you catch something that you can’t get rid of.
Devorce.
Don’t fall into the game playing. Remember why you married her in the first place. Its very easy to look at all the negative things our spouses do, rather than focus on all the good.
Take this opportunity to rekindle what it was that brought you together to begin with. Do something that will remind her of your first date, and then feed off of that.
okay I will do my best to answer although your question is vague on WHY she does not like them
SO I have questions for you
Do you listen to your family more then your wife
Does your family put your wife down or fight with her
Does your family tell you how to run your life
IF SO..then your family needs to BACK off …your wife is FIRST..your family second…
NOW what do you mean very disciplined in my sex life?
you had sex or only have sex a certain way?
A marriage has to feel love to have sex and sex is a BIG part of marriage it is how people get close to each other.
what you need to do is sit with your wife and ask her WITHOUT getting upset and truly listen to WHY she does not like your mom or sister…If they are the ones controlling your life and saying horrid things to her OR about her and making her feel bad..then YOU need to tell your family to accept her and be nice or not talk to you or your wife until they CAN
This is married life YOU are married to her NOT your family.
THEN maybe you will get sex IF you both can work out a plan that does not include yelling and involving your family
Dont cheat on her. You are asking how to save your marriage so I am thinking you still want it to work. If she feels the same then maybe you should try counseling on the other hand if you both want out rather consider divorce unless there are kids involved cause then it becomes more complicated.
Save it? WHY?
Cut your losses, dude.
There’s plenty of women out there who know whare there belly is.
If you’re unhappy already then maybe you should talk to her and see if she feels unhappy too. See if you can change things and make them better. If you find that either or both are unwilling to make the changes needed or you feel being happy is not possible, then seperate and get a divorce. It’s better to get it over now than years down the road after having kids and inreasing her dependance on you. Let her go while she is young (assuming she is) so she can have a chance at a life with someone else who might make her happy too.
If I give you a BIG hug–would that help. I am so sorry. I think if you would cheat on her–you would not feel better. Is there a chance of counciling?? If there are no children–please think twice before having any. Good Luck to you.
Ur mindset is going the wrong direction. U shouldn’t add more problems to the already bad situtaion u’re in.
It does happens. Feeling low and feeling like u’ve made the biggest mistake of ur life. U only give up after u’ve tried everything u can to save the marriage.
In marriage we all make the mistake of taking our spouse for granted and starts looking mostly at the shortcoming of our spouse. By doing so, we are taking a easy route to disaster.
Trust me friend, you need to seriously work for making your marriage not only working, but full of love and joy.
When you married, you may have promised to love and care for your spouse in all good times and bad times. Just stick to this simple promise in words and deeds, and every thing will work out well in your marriage.
On this 2nd marriage anniversary, why don’t you both take a break and spent some time together. Discuss all that has happened and also that did not happen. While doing it please take care not to point fingers at one another. The discussion should be to find out the areas each one need to work on, to make your married life happy.
Remember that you both are together only due to the will of God and therefore it is the responsibility of both of you to make your marriage work.
My best wishes to you both on this special day.
Well you need to decide whether there is any hope of salvaging this marriage. If not do yourself and your wife a favor and move on before she gets pregnant and adding to the problem. Its not an easy thing to do but in the long run you both will be happier.
Please leave.
This may be of interest:
http://www.associatedcontent.com/article/739881/should_people_who_cheat_in_marriage.html?cat=41