How do I save My Marriage?
posted Friday,
12:54 am
Me and My husband Have been falling apart for about 6 mounths now, He dosent want to hug,me , kiss me, make love he also wont let me hold him at night anymore. He say he just wants to be left alone but it is breaking my heart. I feel lost someone give me some advise to help save our marriage, I love him so much and would do anything to save this marriage.
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I am sorry to hear you are in this situation.
Some people do like to have alone time, whereas some people like to be with their partners 24/7. Obviously this causes difficulties in a marriage, but with good communication, these things can be worked out.
In the meantime, you should leave your partner alone, just as he wishes. Now is the time to give time to yourself. You need to work on yourself and boost your self-esteem. This will have two fold results.
Firstly, you will feel better about yourself. This will give you confidence to maybe do things you have not done before.
Secondly, your husband will see you as more self-sufficient, capable, and less needy of him. This will make you more attractive to him as a person.
If you have any good girl friends, perhaps mates you have had from school or work, now is a good time to start going out with them. Not to get drunk and look at other men, but just to socialize and develop a ring of support around you. Sometimes when you talk about your problems with sympathetic listeners, then your problems seem less overwhelming.
For help with boosting your self-esteem you can visit http://www.savemarriagesecrets.org where you can get a free ebook called Personal Development Advice which you may find useful.
Best wishes,
Red Stripe
Talk to him, not us.
Have you tried discussing it with him?
i was in the same situation with my wife… though it took me only 2 months to realise the relationship was over… just end it… that’s what i’m doing…
You have to talk to him and find out what is going on. Then come back here with the details and ask for advice again.
communicate, tell him how scared you are. and ask him whats wrong and tell him you want to solve the problem communicate
ask why he wants to be alone… maybe something’s happening at work, like stress
good luck
Act like you don’t care
Tell him you are over it.
See what he has to say and you will have your anser.
dear,
discuses with your husband, i think you have don some thing which he do not like and he never blame you and never ask you clarification from you you my dear please find out what happen what is the problem and clear with him, see in your past what happen.
GOD BLESS YOU.
regards
Unknown
If you want to save it you should be patient and you should be honest and should be close to him and far from him in the same time as per the case.
When he is happy try to keep him enjoy his happiness and when he is sad do not try to laugh and do not show even your tooth, and one of effective things in solving problems is silence and believe me it is excellent one and you need just the time for that.
I know that there is always a key for every one so try to find your husband key and open the door.
I agree with the number one and number two answers, you need to have a big talk with him. It could be possible they he is finding interest with another woman……
Try some counseling even if he refuses, they can give you advice on how to deal with this situation.
He’s covering up being sad or happy.
If he’s secretly happy, it’s because he has a honey somewhere. I’m hoping it’s not that, but it could be.
If he’s secretly sad, it’s not about you. He feels so much like nothing that he wants everybody out of the room, i.e., his life. If this is what’s happening, where he’s at is a very dark cave. He’s bumping into rock walls and stumbling around. He imagines everybody thinks he’s some kind of idiot, even you.
He’s the kind of guy who won’t take help. Counseling will take a long time because he doesn’t want yet another person seeing him as a nothing. Because that’s where the sadness is coming from.
The images of rich, successful men with lots of women hanging on to them are pushed at him all day, every day. He believes he could have all that if it weren’t for his lousy job, his less than supermodel wife, how lucky other people are, whatever.
He’s feeling really, really sorry for himself. It’s not about you.
There are ways to get some help into his head. A bucket of ice water at 3 a.m. gets his attention as long as you find it humorous and can get him to laugh too. Laughter opens a small door for a short time. A really good, whack his head counselor can help. Oddly enough, nearly losing his own life or someone close to him helps people see that just being able to get up in the morning is a great blessing. You can’t really plan that.
He needs some fun, and you need to be part of getting it for him. If you’ll do anything to save this marriage, take some motorcycle riding lessons and tell him you want to hit the open road. He can come if he wants. Whatever. Get out him out of his comfortable I’m-a-loser rut. Throw the TV out. Take lessons on X-rated dancing. Just do something, for God’s sake.