How do I get my parents to get a divorce/stop fighting?
My parents are always arguing, and lately its been escalating to the point where they are both making death threats. My dad was literally waving the kitchen knife around yesterday, and there have been times that they have hit each other.
It really, really scares me, and I’m especially worried about the effect this is having on my six year old sister (Although, she doesn’t seem to be too bothered by it…). I been trying to convince them to get a divorce, as both of them just about said aloud that they don’t love or even like each other, but even though they always agree to get a divorce it never actually happens. Apparently there is some issue about the division of real estate, and my mom thinks that my dad is hiding away several apartments in Shanghai. My dad says that if my mom goes back to Shanghai, he will hire people to kill her.
I have tried pretty much every trick in the book to get my parents to stop fighting, from "its seriously scaring me and my sister" to getting on my knees and begging, and sometimes their fights stop for about a month and then start up again.
I honestly have no idea what to do in this situation, as I’m also very caught up in intensive college preparation (I’m going into my senior year), but I would be less worried if they just got a divorce, since there would be no risk of them injuring each other.
I would really appreciate any suggestions.
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This is why marriage counseling works so well. The counselor plays the role of mediator. The couple can talk about their problems, and the "referree" (counselor) will make sure it doesn’t go too far. You should sit down with them and ask them if they can discuss their problems in a non-negative way. Just calmly and honestly. No death threats allowed, no weapons, etc. Like a game, where they sit down and take turns discussing what bothers them. Ask each other questions that require honest answers, and no aggression is allowed.
Or remind them that at one time they did love each other, and there must be a reason why they’re still together even though they fight so much. Hopefully the reason is something to do with love and not finances or real estate. If they can’t think of why they love each other anymore then they should ask themselves if whatever they are fighting about is worth tearing their relationship apart. They need to be honest with each other and trust each other for there to be any love again.
When you have done all that you can, you just stand and continue to pray.
let them know your concerns regarding your little sibling.
sorry for the stress you are going through. it seems like they both love to fight. and are co dependent one each other.
suggest maybe a vacation away from each other. divorce is so drastic. but i think the less time they spend with each other, the more they get use to it and divorce will be just on the horizon.