How can I save my relationship?
I’m 14, and I’ve been together with my boyfriend, who is also my best friend for 9 months now. But lately it’s been getting really dull and we both feel like we’re just best friends like we were before, and it doesn’t feel like we’re dating. He means so much to me.. we talked about it and we don’t want to break up, and I wouldn’t be able to stand seeing him with someone else. How can I save our relationship before it’s too late?
LOL Ritarose. I am not involved in any sex. I’m abstinent. But thats cool I think there are a lot of kids out there who need to be thinking about that.
Aww thanks I didn’t even expect so many responses! You all are so helpful, I have like, 10 best answers but I can only pick one.. :[
But thanks again so much I love you all!
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OMG you sound like me in the beggining of my 3 yr relationship with my best friend (who i am still with its going on 3 yrs and 7 months now) i was 16 when we first started going out and he was 18…him and i were always goofing around and making fun of eacother as friends but when things got serious where we were actually in a relationship…he kept acting the same….so what i did was i explained to him that we’re no longer just best friends we’re bf and gf and if we want things to work out for us we have to act like bf and gf more!! get more lovey dovey with him and kiss and hug be romanitc and see how he reacts call him pet names like baby or sweetheart and do things togrether rather than with other ppl around and you two should be fine it worked out for me great you’ll see if he’s ready to be in a relationship with you if he goes 100% for it or if he backs away so hopefully it will all work in your favor
take it to the next level
Spend some time alone with him. Try to rekindle your relationship. Think about how you started liking eachother. Try to just relive that moment.
you are already talking about it and now you hae decided to that you can’t live with out him well you know what you have learned alot from him and now its time to let him go and seek someone else its good for both ofyou. i mean hey you may find somsone else that you can go with you will like as much or more life itsn’t one person only till you marry and you could meet lots before that time comes so get moving. take care and good luck
Tell him that if you said losing him would be something you could handle you would be lying, that is a good way of telling him how much you care about him. Then try to spice things up and be more cuddly and flirty with him.
Hey…thats what happens in relationships…after the first year it settles down. Do things afterschool together like study, clubs at school, exercise, volunteer…volunteering together is REALLY good. Being very supportive of each other in highschool is important and when you get a little older, say 11th and 12th grade, you will understand what I mean. You have to learn to do things with each other and rely on each other to get through…to where you need each other for real and then it’s never "old" (when you get older you may buy a house together and a car…or work to go on vacation together…this is training to see if yall can hang tight)
take it to the next……
i would talk about it. communication is the key. just try being more flirty, going out more, holding hands and doing boyfriend/girlfriend things. if it doesn’t feel right, maybe it’s just not meant to be. maybe you need to find someone else to see that you really WANT him and that will get you guys to get your spark back. see how the first few things go and if not, try dating other people for a while.
You are too young to get serious… It most likely wont last if you do stay together for a while. People change and grow apart the older we get.
You are 14 years old so you most likely rely on your parents for a lot. If you can’t get out to something because of transportation or money you need to rely on what you have in common. your 14 years old and it may be really tough for you two but as long as there is no intense fighting keep it going.
Just talk to him abot it. Maybe like go to the movies or watch a movie and like cuddle and kiss and hold hands. Do stuff best friends wouldnt do. Do stuff only boyfriend and girlfriend would do =]
Try doing new things with each other…..find out what he likes and make a date to do it with him or find a conversation he likes …..Like sports and talk about it with him. I hate to say it but you have your whole life ahead of you he is not going to be the only boy you go out with but i wish you lots of luck
it sounds like you need to take a break. you are really young for a long term relationship, though at the same time you’re really lucky you have something like this. If you really wanna stick with him for the long haul, be prepared cause high school will not be easy.
Talk to him openly abt wat u mean to him, how u feel without him, how damn sh!t it will b if u break up and most importantly, talk to him even more than usual to get hold of his mind back to u.
Hope it helps lol
HEY GURL..THE BEST THING TO DO IS SPEND SOME ALONE TIME TOGETHER! THE TWO OF YOU NEED TO JUST GO SEE A MOVIES BY YOURSELVES! AND HAVE FUN AND BE YOU AROUND HIM AND HE NEEDS TO BE HIMSELF AROUND YOU! IT WILL WORK BECAUSE THATS WHAT HAPPENED TO ME AND MY BOYFRIEND. OUR RELATIONSHIP WAS LIKE YOURS AT TIMES AND SO I SUGGESTED THAT I WANTED TO SEE A MOVIE AND HE TOOK ME. I WAS ABLE TO BE MYSELF AS WELL AS HE. EVER SINCE THEN, WE HAVE GONE TO THE MOVIES EVERY WEEKEND AND WE HAVE BEEN TOGETHER FOR 2 YEARS ON THE 27TH OF THIS MONTH AND NOW WE ARE STRONGER THAN EVER!
You are to young to be dating, to young to be in any relationship right now. You should be working at being a good student, and a good friend for a few more years. Ar 14 your body is not ready for sex. Have you thought about the consequences, STD’s, AIDS, babies, diapers, angry parents and can the boy pay child support. I think you need to grow up more in mind and body before you get into relationships. Sex is not a sport for you kids to play at. Have morals for goodness sake.