How can I save my marriage?
posted Saturday,
11:54 pm
My wife and I are seperated and I have gave her divorce papers already, the only reason I did was because I am so frusterated and don’t know what else to do how can I save my marriage. we barley even talk to each other.much less see each other but she will not sign the papers. What do I do?
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she obviously doesn’t want a divorce, so u still have a chance to make things right. so ask her why she is so distant.u save it by going back in there and fighting for it, not running away and asking for a divorce when things don’t go your way.
Talk to her, tell her that you’d like to give the relationship another chance, and suggest couples counselling. If she agrees, that is a good sign.
Read the "Proper care and feeding of Marriages" or sign up for marriage counseling. You can make it work and usually once you make it work after a really rough time the marriage is awesome.
let her know you did it because of frustration but you really want to work it out.
You need to give us way more information than that. What broke you up? Money problems? Infidelity?
The fact that neither of you really wants this should count for something, seeing as how she won’t sign the papers and you just said that you don’t know what to do to save your marriage.
What happened? And give as many details as you can so that we can have a better idea of how to be helpful.
Your confused on rather you want ti to work too or if your really wanting her to sign or not.
Talk with her and tell her marriage counseling is in order. It’s a must.
If you already filed and she doesn’t sign, it doesn’t mean it will happen. She has a time period on which it has to be fought.
I think so many marriages break up because people are just so darn stubborn. It reminds me of a story my grandma told me about her ex husband. He was the love of her life but because they were both so stubborn and wouldn’t tell the other how they felt and that they didn’t want the divorce they lost each other forever. My advice is…tell her you still love her. Tell her you will go to marriage counseling, anything to keep her in your life. If you still break up at least you will know you tried and I’m sure that will be something you can live with. Can you reaaly live with the not knowing or the what if’s. I know I couldn’t.
What caused the separation? Are you guys grown? Why aren’t you talking to each other.
It is very obvious that you want it to work and it seems that she does also since she will not sign the papers. Since you are leaving out so many details, you will have to determine what is getting you frustrated and get some counseling. A lot of people get it and it helps.
talk to her… tell her how you feel i’m sure she will listen if she loves you. You both have to give. Throw your pride out the window forget the past start over again put bad feelings aside be sincere. If that doesn’t work at least you went the extra mile. Tell her what you wrote and admit why you served the papers good luck
Communicate. Are you still on talking terms otherwise? Does she understand why you are frustrated? How do you expect her to feel with the threat of divorce papers in her face and you saying you want to get back together? I’m confused – so I can understand her.
Firstly – we see and feel in others the traits and habits that we dislike in ourselves. The best marriages I have ever seen is where the couple are confident with whom they are individually and appreciative for the partner in their lives that they can share with.
Take a look at yourself and the past few years. Why did you marry, when did it go sour, when did you stop liking yourself, and why should you get back together?
Read "The Teachings of Abraham" or watch the DVDs – listen to the CDs. Learn, accept and grow.
don’t force anything at this point. life is very treacherous
She probably has things to say to you that she cannot say! It sounds like she doesn’t wanna let go of you, I doubt she is doing it just to be awkward, I think anyone who wants to upset someone would sign the papers incase you were just doing it as a threat. Talk to her the best you can and try to be as calm as possible, maybe flowers or something and just ask her if its ok if you sit down and have a chat?
Well honey that is what just happened to me and guess what i still took him to court and got my divorce done and over with. Now he’s the one that fills like and a**. Oh another thing (hint) it’s alot quicker if you get the papers to do your own divorce that way you don’t have to pay alot of money or court fees.