Comments on: How can i save my marriage? http://helpsaveamarriage.com/blog/how-can-i-save-my-marriage-2/138 Save A Marriage Tips Tue, 08 Nov 2011 13:55:29 +0000 hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 By: Sue C http://helpsaveamarriage.com/blog/how-can-i-save-my-marriage-2/138/comment-page-1#comment-1303 Sue C Wed, 09 Sep 2009 03:04:21 +0000 http://helpsaveamarriage.com/blog/how-can-i-save-my-marriage-2/#comment-1303 Just might be that you don't belong together. Fighting & bickering all the time does NOT make for a happy marriage. If you've done & tried everything in your power, then maybe it might be a good idea to try a separation & see how you each make out on your own. There is nothing like an unhappy marriage to keep hanging in yr. after yr. when it just doesn't change. There's going to come a time in your life when you both feel you want to be happy regardless if it's together or apart. IF you really truly don't feel you love one another the way you should, then why stay together & be unhappy. You just might find it's to both your best advantage to accept things are NOT going to change & go from there. But there honestly is no reason to keep staying together in a non happy atmosphere. It's not fair to either one. We all make mistakes of every kind. Your marriage just could be a mistake, accept that fact & both of you would have to move on. I'd try a separation first & see how you both make out on your own. See if each one of you is truly happier that way. IF you find you are, then accept the fact you have made a mistake & rectify it so you both have a chance of a happy future. The best to you...:) Just might be that you don’t belong together. Fighting & bickering all the time does NOT make for a happy marriage. If you’ve done & tried everything in your power, then maybe it might be a good idea to try a separation & see how you each make out on your own. There is nothing like an unhappy marriage to keep hanging in yr. after yr. when it just doesn’t change. There’s going to come a time in your life when you both feel you want to be happy regardless if it’s together or apart. IF you really truly don’t feel you love one another the way you should, then why stay together & be unhappy. You just might find it’s to both your best advantage to accept things are NOT going to change & go from there. But there honestly is no reason to keep staying together in a non happy atmosphere. It’s not fair to either one. We all make mistakes of every kind. Your marriage just could be a mistake, accept that fact & both of you would have to move on. I’d try a separation first & see how you both make out on your own. See if each one of you is truly happier that way. IF you find you are, then accept the fact you have made a mistake & rectify it so you both have a chance of a happy future. The best to you…:)

]]> By: Brunette wife http://helpsaveamarriage.com/blog/how-can-i-save-my-marriage-2/138/comment-page-1#comment-1304 Brunette wife Wed, 09 Sep 2009 03:04:21 +0000 http://helpsaveamarriage.com/blog/how-can-i-save-my-marriage-2/#comment-1304 If counseling isn't helping then maybe you and your husband should separate for awhile and see how things go from there. If counseling isn’t helping then maybe you and your husband should separate for awhile and see how things go from there.

]]> By: Koshu http://helpsaveamarriage.com/blog/how-can-i-save-my-marriage-2/138/comment-page-1#comment-1305 Koshu Wed, 09 Sep 2009 03:04:21 +0000 http://helpsaveamarriage.com/blog/how-can-i-save-my-marriage-2/#comment-1305 You said, "my husband and i have been to 3 different counselors". Then it is time to part. You said, "my husband and i have been to 3 different counselors". Then it is time to part.

]]> By: movin2dr http://helpsaveamarriage.com/blog/how-can-i-save-my-marriage-2/138/comment-page-1#comment-1306 movin2dr Wed, 09 Sep 2009 03:04:21 +0000 http://helpsaveamarriage.com/blog/how-can-i-save-my-marriage-2/#comment-1306 If 3 differnt counselors hasn't helped you two, perhaps divorce is the answer. Life is too short to be constantly fighting with someone who's supposed to love you and respect you instead of making you feel miserable. If 3 differnt counselors hasn’t helped you two, perhaps divorce is the answer. Life is too short to be constantly fighting with someone who’s supposed to love you and respect you instead of making you feel miserable.

]]> By: Keepn_it_real http://helpsaveamarriage.com/blog/how-can-i-save-my-marriage-2/138/comment-page-1#comment-1307 Keepn_it_real Wed, 09 Sep 2009 03:04:21 +0000 http://helpsaveamarriage.com/blog/how-can-i-save-my-marriage-2/#comment-1307 Reverse the mistake of getting married in the first place. What is the point? Live your life. Why spend it trying to fix something that was never meant to be? Reverse the mistake of getting married in the first place. What is the point? Live your life. Why spend it trying to fix something that was never meant to be?

]]> By: empath140879 http://helpsaveamarriage.com/blog/how-can-i-save-my-marriage-2/138/comment-page-1#comment-1308 empath140879 Wed, 09 Sep 2009 03:04:21 +0000 http://helpsaveamarriage.com/blog/how-can-i-save-my-marriage-2/#comment-1308 Love isn't always enough, you can love someone and not be right for them. Ask him what he feels the two of you should do. Maybe a holiday with no mobile phones in a destination where no one can get to you. Love isn’t always enough, you can love someone and not be right for them. Ask him what he feels the two of you should do. Maybe a holiday with no mobile phones in a destination where no one can get to you.

]]> By: Chaqweta M http://helpsaveamarriage.com/blog/how-can-i-save-my-marriage-2/138/comment-page-1#comment-1309 Chaqweta M Wed, 09 Sep 2009 03:04:21 +0000 http://helpsaveamarriage.com/blog/how-can-i-save-my-marriage-2/#comment-1309 <CNTL> <S> <CNTL> <S>

]]> By: blondie280 http://helpsaveamarriage.com/blog/how-can-i-save-my-marriage-2/138/comment-page-1#comment-1310 blondie280 Wed, 09 Sep 2009 03:04:21 +0000 http://helpsaveamarriage.com/blog/how-can-i-save-my-marriage-2/#comment-1310 It sounds like you have exhausted yourselves trying to make this marriage work. Perhaps you should try separating for while and seeing how that works for you. Perhaps you two could find more common grown without being under the same room and then perhaps you will find you should move forward. Bless you both! It sounds like you have exhausted yourselves trying to make this marriage work. Perhaps you should try separating for while and seeing how that works for you. Perhaps you two could find more common grown without being under the same room and then perhaps you will find you should move forward. Bless you both!

]]> By: Jamilyn http://helpsaveamarriage.com/blog/how-can-i-save-my-marriage-2/138/comment-page-1#comment-1311 Jamilyn Wed, 09 Sep 2009 03:04:21 +0000 http://helpsaveamarriage.com/blog/how-can-i-save-my-marriage-2/#comment-1311 im sure the counselors made you do all the exercises: what brought you together in the first place, list your likes and dislikes of each other, role reversals. but if you both can't step back and look at your situation from each others point of view then you will be doomed. say all you want is some "romantic time" and he can wrap his head around the fact that what he gives you isn't enough anymore. if he can't see that even he could feel like he is missing someone even though they are right there and you can't see that from where he stands he is giving you attention then you won't be able to work things out. take the time to talk to each other without raising your voices and just discuss what you want, what you miss, what you are willing to do for the relationship, what effort you want to bring to the table. if you both come to the realization that you don't want to put in the effort, that you can't provide what the other wants then i would suggest seperating. im sure the counselors made you do all the exercises: what brought you together in the first place, list your likes and dislikes of each other, role reversals. but if you both can’t step back and look at your situation from each others point of view then you will be doomed. say all you want is some "romantic time" and he can wrap his head around the fact that what he gives you isn’t enough anymore. if he can’t see that even he could feel like he is missing someone even though they are right there and you can’t see that from where he stands he is giving you attention then you won’t be able to work things out.

take the time to talk to each other without raising your voices and just discuss what you want, what you miss, what you are willing to do for the relationship, what effort you want to bring to the table.

if you both come to the realization that you don’t want to put in the effort, that you can’t provide what the other wants then i would suggest seperating.

]]> By: Paul http://helpsaveamarriage.com/blog/how-can-i-save-my-marriage-2/138/comment-page-1#comment-1312 Paul Wed, 09 Sep 2009 03:04:21 +0000 http://helpsaveamarriage.com/blog/how-can-i-save-my-marriage-2/#comment-1312 If this is a pattern of behavior that can't be broken, then you have to be careful, because you don't want to raise a baby in a home like that. They have this tendency of picking up your very worst habits, even ones you don't know about. I guess a peaceful home is a priority...when you meet your new child, I hope it makes you both want to be better people (as it did, me). I hope it works out, and if not, I hope all are happy. If this is a pattern of behavior that can’t be broken, then you have to be careful, because you don’t want to raise a baby in a home like that. They have this tendency of picking up your very worst habits, even ones you don’t know about. I guess a peaceful home is a priority…when you meet your new child, I hope it makes you both want to be better people (as it did, me). I hope it works out, and if not, I hope all are happy.

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