Florida Church attempt to stop divorce?
posted Sunday,
1:16 am
http://www.cnn.com/2008/LIVING/wayoflife/02/19/sex.every.day.ap/index.html
I say we make this a NATIONAL goal! How about in the month of March we all make a pledge to slow down in other aspects of our lives and reconnect (not just physically but that is also important) with our partners. What are your thoughts on this idea?
I think the idea here is not simply about sex. I think what he is trying to get at is that couples need to reconnect. Sex on a regular basis is one way to reopen communication and rebuild the love some couples have lost.
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Ha, I think I’ll forward this to my wife.
"The challenge doesn’t extend to unwed congregants"
That made me laugh…
It’s kind of hard to go 30 days when women have a week out of commission. I agree that reconnection is important.
People do need to work more on their marriages. We tend to forget we still have to work on our relationships after marriage. We get comfortable then get tired of things. Then it all seems to fall apart.
Divorce is to easy to get these days…..
It is an excellent goal.
i think thats great idea. To many people live in fast lane and forget whats important to them. Need to make more time for the important things. Lifes to short.
I wouldn’t want to have sex for 30 days because I have been challenged to do so. I enjoy the sex life my husband and I have and so does he. We are happily married. Sex is not usually the big problem that causes divorce, it is a bunch of other problems that cause resentment that lead to the lack of sex. If there isn’t enough sex in a relationship then you need to look at the underlying problems.
So far so good…..
It won’t stop divorce. It might lead to divorce. Men will be used to sex each night for 30 days. If it stops after 30 days, they could go elsewhere and it could result in a divorce. LOL.
I don’t need a church to tell me that I can have sex every day for 30 days. I can do that on my own…..
Personally, I find it a little odd. I think he should have challenged the couples to TALK to each other every day. That will go much further in the way of reconnecting than merely having sex.
EDITED TO ADD THIS AFTER YOU ADDED ADDITIONAL DETAILS:
The idea may not simply be about sex, but that’s the challenge that was issued. He should have issued a different challenge. Couples don’t have sex and THEN connect. They connect FIRST and it leads to sex. Personally, I’d be real offended if my pastor tried to tell me (or even implied) that I needed to have sex with my husband every day. My pastor can advise me to be considerate of my spouse, to make time for my spouse, etc, but telling me to have sex every day (even for a month) is over the line. I think most women would dig their heels in just on principal.
Yes, says someone who doesn’t have kids to put to bed and a house to clean at night… besides, he just wants to watch TV at night. He’s tired after work. We get it on the weekend and both of us are happy with that.
BRAVO .. the divorce rate in the US is a national disgrace
currently marriage is a convienience and not a commitment
marriage should be replaced by 2 year renewable term contracts
but.. if you can do something to stop the carnage best of luck to you..
as long as the divorce courts make one person a life time lottery winner in a divorce.. and the other one feels all the pain.. it wont work tho..
prenups are the answer.. spell out the disolution of the marriage prior to it going into effect.. so people know what they stand to lose in the eventual statistically certain divorce.
do this when they are friends.. before they marry..
marriage as we knew it.. is obsolete..there is statisitcally no such thing as till death do us part.. it should instead read untill the 2 years is up.. understanding that the contract can then be renewed.
While 1 in 7 or so special darling souls will enjoy giving it a go, there is no way in HELL about 85% of women are going to have sex every day for a month.
They just don’t care about it like we do, bro. They don’t see sex as "reconnecting."
Masking it behind "but sweetie, the Lord told us to hump again *tonight*" will appear more coercive than ever.
And to get a national movement going that you want to start in March, it’s a good idea to let people know a little longer than 10 days before the event. Try a year beforehand.
i think that part of the reason why there is so much divorce is because we live in such a microwave society where everything is instant. and also part of that problem lies in it the fact that relationships CANNNOT BE RUSHED. yet people meet one day and six months later are getting married. what happend to the get to know you phase of the relationship? that doesn’t happen anymore.