do I need to save our 12 years of marriage?
posted Thursday,
2:10 am
We been married for 12 years, I am so fed up with him, he could not give up on his friends,oftentimes I felt neglected he never cares to tell me his whereabouts even after he doesn’t come home from work.I really fell out of love of him, what will I do?
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My answer to this is Familylife.com not really the site per say but attend a convention, I am young only 24 but for me and my wifes first aniversary we attended one and honestly as a man it woke me up big time even to the things I felt were ok. The problem is I have the other end of this as do you now. She has shut down emotionally but if you feel like you love him and that you want to save it you should, we all take marriage for granted these days now and it is sad 12 years is a long investment, I wish m wife cared for our marriage like you do yours it always takes 2 to tango. Also read love and respect and somehow get him to read it also. Remember if you ever wanna get a mans attention treat him to some intimacy that he wont forget and those friend will be gonzo do stuff that you did when you guys were courting eachother as for me I guess I am on my own.
I tell you what you wont be able to do. Re-Marry sorry u too old and wrinkly by now probably.
Just try and make dis thang work out or have an affair.
if you have fallen out of love with him…
then the obvious situation is that you can find someone who can make you happy forever
i hate to think that love could end… but sadly it does
i wish you the best of luck
You waited 10 years longer than you should have. Separate for a month or so, make him go to counseling with you. If this doesn’t wake him up ..file for divorce.
You have to do what is right for you. I couldn’t be married to someone I couldn’t trust or someone that isn’t putting his family first.
It sounds like you deserve to be treated better. Suggest counseling and if that doesn’t work or he doesn’t want to help save the marriage — than you need to make a life changing decision.
well thats no way to treat your wife. tell him that, and tell him what you just said here. see where that goes. it is something you should at least try to save, marriage is a sacred thing. but everyone deserves to be happy, and loved. best wishes.
No. Go gay.
get a divorce!there are plenty of guys out there that will give you the attention you want.
Do you need to save your marriage, is your self-worth and the love and attention that you feel you should have been getting all this time is out there for you – yes it is – the steps needed to make all this come to be are under you feet and no one elses. 12 years is a long time and in some people it is a life time, thank God that you have not been abused and had to deal with some of the other negative things that can infiltrate a marriage. Love is a big part of a relationship and once that is gone what is left. You do deserve to be happy and to be loved the way you think you should. Again, the steps that "need" to be taken are under your feet now whether you choose to "want" to take them is up to you. I pray all works out for you. God Bless.
if you dont love him anymore, and hes treating you like crap, why waste the rest of your life with him?
Sounds like it is time to move on, life is to short. I have a friend who has lived like you are living. She has been married over 20 years and has been miserable for 18 of them. She has now decided after all these years it is time for a divorce and to go find happiness. You should do the same.
How long have you been unhappy? How much longer ae you willing to stay unhappy? Find a place to go (probably home with your parents) Take your things to their house (things that he will not miss) get your personal belongings as low as possible and then the day that you are gone the rest of your stuff goes with you. The reason you do not warn him ahead is because some men get violent (they think that they own you) Violence often happens at this point. Leave a note telling him that you have gone because of dtc etc etc…. Do this as fast as possible, You do not deserve to be unhappy any longer. I hope that you start a new life that will be what you would like it to be. Good luck.
If you’ve truly fallen out of love with him and really don’t think that anything can bring it back. And you are one hundred percent sure that you’ve put as much effort as possible into discussing things with him calmly, then leave him. At least separate…for both of your sakes. But, one thing i definitely have a different opinion on than everyone else would be what to do afterward. I wouldn’t suggest just going out and finding someone else. Who’s to say that you won’t have the same problem with them. If you’re going to be single again, embrace it…and before you marry again, find what truly makes you happy.