Comments for Saving Your Marriage Tips http://helpsaveamarriage.com/blog Wed, 10 Mar 2010 12:31:44 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.1 hourly 1 Comment on Need help to save my marriage? by Marie http://helpsaveamarriage.com/blog/need-help-to-save-my-marriage/comment-page-1/#comment-3684 Marie Wed, 10 Mar 2010 12:31:44 +0000 http://helpsaveamarriage.com/blog/need-help-to-save-my-marriage/#comment-3684 First you have to recognize that she is having the thrill of having a boy-toy. Very exciting but it will pass. In the meantime you have to make a decision (with her): would it be possible to have an open marriage for a while? With her giving you the same consideration? My family has known of similar situations which ultimately healed after a period when each partner had a lover (or two). First you have to recognize that she is having the thrill of having a boy-toy. Very exciting but it will pass. In the meantime you have to make a decision (with her): would it be possible to have an open marriage for a while? With her giving you the same consideration? My family has known of similar situations which ultimately healed after a period when each partner had a lover (or two).

]]> Comment on Need help to save my marriage? by irish guy http://helpsaveamarriage.com/blog/need-help-to-save-my-marriage/comment-page-1/#comment-3683 irish guy Wed, 10 Mar 2010 12:31:44 +0000 http://helpsaveamarriage.com/blog/need-help-to-save-my-marriage/#comment-3683 dude, you are asking for a life of punishment, i don't think you deserve that! dude, you are asking for a life of punishment, i don’t think you deserve that!

]]> Comment on Need help to save my marriage? by joan_of_freakin_arc http://helpsaveamarriage.com/blog/need-help-to-save-my-marriage/comment-page-1/#comment-3682 joan_of_freakin_arc Wed, 10 Mar 2010 12:31:44 +0000 http://helpsaveamarriage.com/blog/need-help-to-save-my-marriage/#comment-3682 why are u the only one who has to work on the relationship, or make changes? distance yourself and accept she wants the kid, she is just selfish, and this has little to do with u, has to do with what she wants right now. why beg and plead when the outcome is going to be the same no matter what u do or say. why are u the only one who has to work on the relationship, or make changes? distance yourself and accept she wants the kid, she is just selfish, and this has little to do with u, has to do with what she wants right now. why beg and plead when the outcome is going to be the same no matter what u do or say.

]]> Comment on Need help to save my marriage? by bikernoj http://helpsaveamarriage.com/blog/need-help-to-save-my-marriage/comment-page-1/#comment-3681 bikernoj Wed, 10 Mar 2010 12:31:44 +0000 http://helpsaveamarriage.com/blog/need-help-to-save-my-marriage/#comment-3681 Unless you both want the marriage to work, it's done. Get a lawyer, and make a list of things that were yours before the marriage, or you won't be keeping them. Good riddance, I say. There is no excuse to justify breaking the promises you made diring the wedding ceremony, religious or not. Unless you both want the marriage to work, it’s done. Get a lawyer, and make a list of things that were yours before the marriage, or you won’t be keeping them.

Good riddance, I say. There is no excuse to justify breaking the promises you made diring the wedding ceremony, religious or not.

]]> Comment on Need help to save my marriage? by Peace http://helpsaveamarriage.com/blog/need-help-to-save-my-marriage/comment-page-1/#comment-3680 Peace Wed, 10 Mar 2010 12:31:44 +0000 http://helpsaveamarriage.com/blog/need-help-to-save-my-marriage/#comment-3680 Well, first, remember that what she is doing is about her and not you. People have affairs because of problems they have, not anything you have done, or else they would have the courage to bring up whatever it is they are unhappy about with you, work it out and not go the cowards' way and have an affair. Communication is the only way to resolve the issues you have at hand. Will she go to counselling? Can you request counselling as part of a divorce agreement in your state? Remember you are in the position of power as far as the divorce goes. She may be leaving, but she can't have the divorce until you give it to her. Be strong. Let her see what she is going to be missing. Be kind and gracious, and remember that no matter how it turns out, you will be OK. If she is willing, have a heart to heart conversation about what she is getting from her affair that she thinks she is not getting from you and see if you can get her to see she will only repeat the problems the two of you may have with another individual. Above all, have pity towards her- remember that if she tells you she thinks things will be better with this other person, you know for a fact that they will not because people tend to get to roadblocks in their relationships when they venture out to have an affair, and those roadblocks are caused by their own fears and inabilities- those fears and inabilities will come out in the next relationship (and next and next) if she is not willing to confront them in order to allow the relationship to evolve. If you decide to stay with her (and make sure you really want to and aren't just afraid to be alone), be sure you get to the bottom of why the affair happened and make sure your communication is 100% honest and open. Don't accept less. Be sure to take care of yourself throughout this entire thing- your kids need at least one strong role model. Well, first, remember that what she is doing is about her and not you. People have affairs because of problems they have, not anything you have done, or else they would have the courage to bring up whatever it is they are unhappy about with you, work it out and not go the cowards’ way and have an affair. Communication is the only way to resolve the issues you have at hand. Will she go to counselling? Can you request counselling as part of a divorce agreement in your state? Remember you are in the position of power as far as the divorce goes. She may be leaving, but she can’t have the divorce until you give it to her. Be strong. Let her see what she is going to be missing. Be kind and gracious, and remember that no matter how it turns out, you will be OK. If she is willing, have a heart to heart conversation about what she is getting from her affair that she thinks she is not getting from you and see if you can get her to see she will only repeat the problems the two of you may have with another individual. Above all, have pity towards her- remember that if she tells you she thinks things will be better with this other person, you know for a fact that they will not because people tend to get to roadblocks in their relationships when they venture out to have an affair, and those roadblocks are caused by their own fears and inabilities- those fears and inabilities will come out in the next relationship (and next and next) if she is not willing to confront them in order to allow the relationship to evolve. If you decide to stay with her (and make sure you really want to and aren’t just afraid to be alone), be sure you get to the bottom of why the affair happened and make sure your communication is 100% honest and open. Don’t accept less. Be sure to take care of yourself throughout this entire thing- your kids need at least one strong role model.

]]> Comment on Need help to save my marriage? by B G http://helpsaveamarriage.com/blog/need-help-to-save-my-marriage/comment-page-1/#comment-3679 B G Wed, 10 Mar 2010 12:31:44 +0000 http://helpsaveamarriage.com/blog/need-help-to-save-my-marriage/#comment-3679 Sounds like you are still in love with her. My best advice is to have a long hard discussion about the why and what's been going on. Why she wants to call it quits and be open to her point of view. for both of you.... don't let anger empower judgement! Innoncent children could be caught in the middle!! I wish you the best. Sounds like you are still in love with her. My best advice is to have a long hard discussion about the why and what’s been going on. Why she wants to call it quits and be open to her point of view. for both of you…. don’t let anger empower judgement! Innoncent children could be caught in the middle!! I wish you the best.

]]> Comment on Need help to save my marriage? by imurdreamlover http://helpsaveamarriage.com/blog/need-help-to-save-my-marriage/comment-page-1/#comment-3678 imurdreamlover Wed, 10 Mar 2010 12:31:44 +0000 http://helpsaveamarriage.com/blog/need-help-to-save-my-marriage/#comment-3678 You are a good man! First off you should sit down with her and really ask her to express herself and how she is feeling? Give her time to talk and have a lot of patience because she might not want to talk. She probably is very confused with her life right now. Don't yell at her...I'm not saying you will! If everything is fine, material wise..than maybe you should look at how you spend time with her. Do you show her the attention you used to? A lot of times that is what will go wrong and, sorry, but most men are blind to the fact that their woman is feeling ignored and is getting her attention somewhere else. Well good luck. You are a good man! First off you should sit down with her and really ask her to express herself and how she is feeling? Give her time to talk and have a lot of patience because she might not want to talk. She probably is very confused with her life right now. Don’t yell at her…I’m not saying you will! If everything is fine, material wise..than maybe you should look at how you spend time with her. Do you show her the attention you used to? A lot of times that is what will go wrong and, sorry, but most men are blind to the fact that their woman is feeling ignored and is getting her attention somewhere else. Well good luck.

]]> Comment on Need help to save my marriage? by sandra http://helpsaveamarriage.com/blog/need-help-to-save-my-marriage/comment-page-1/#comment-3677 sandra Wed, 10 Mar 2010 12:31:44 +0000 http://helpsaveamarriage.com/blog/need-help-to-save-my-marriage/#comment-3677 Sounds like it is time to spice up your marriage. you need to remember back when you were 20. How were you in the bedroom? You might need to start exploring your options and find a new you by giving her more wild nights. Buy her sexy gowns and even a toy that you can both play with. Tell her that she is still your wife and that you want to make the best of your last six weeks together. Try new things like tying her up in the bed and seducing her. PLEASE HER AND ONLY HER without thinking of yourself. Explore you wild side and try to take her out every other night from here on. Try leaving little paper messages for her like where to meet you tonight. Or another saying to check under the bed and there she'll find another gift. tell her she's been naughty and stuff like that...Don't forget the romantic dinner and all that.... Best Of Luck! If this doesn't work, then atleast you tried and you can say you made the best of those 6 weeks to last her a lifetime. Sounds like it is time to spice up your marriage. you need to remember back when you were 20. How were you in the bedroom? You might need to start exploring your options and find a new you by giving her more wild nights. Buy her sexy gowns and even a toy that you can both play with. Tell her that she is still your wife and that you want to make the best of your last six weeks together. Try new things like tying her up in the bed and seducing her. PLEASE HER AND ONLY HER without thinking of yourself. Explore you wild side and try to take her out every other night from here on. Try leaving little paper messages for her like where to meet you tonight. Or another saying to check under the bed and there she’ll find another gift. tell her she’s been naughty and stuff like that…Don’t forget the romantic dinner and all that…. Best Of Luck! If this doesn’t work, then atleast you tried and you can say you made the best of those 6 weeks to last her a lifetime.

]]> Comment on Need help to save my marriage? by Honest Injun! http://helpsaveamarriage.com/blog/need-help-to-save-my-marriage/comment-page-1/#comment-3676 Honest Injun! Wed, 10 Mar 2010 12:31:44 +0000 http://helpsaveamarriage.com/blog/need-help-to-save-my-marriage/#comment-3676 You are one hell of a man to forgive that easily.Good Luck.Maybe she will realize that some day and dump the kid and come back to you.I hope so. You are one hell of a man to forgive that easily.Good Luck.Maybe she will realize that some day and dump the kid and come back to you.I hope so.

]]> Comment on Need help to save my marriage? by spirit97x3 http://helpsaveamarriage.com/blog/need-help-to-save-my-marriage/comment-page-1/#comment-3675 spirit97x3 Wed, 10 Mar 2010 12:31:44 +0000 http://helpsaveamarriage.com/blog/need-help-to-save-my-marriage/#comment-3675 Mid-life crisis my butt! She just needs to grow up. She's only 29,midlife is like 40's or 50's. Sounds like you're screwed. Right now; no matter what you say or do won't matter to her. Best thing you can do is just let her go. What about the kid's, who gets them? Unless you want to loose everything else you should tell her to get out now, don't wait! You'll go nuts knowing that she is living with you and screwing some other guy. Tell her to get out, at least then you can get her for abandonment if it comes down to that. You need to start to prepare yourself for the worse. Mid-life crisis my butt! She just needs to grow up. She’s only 29,midlife is like 40’s or 50’s. Sounds like you’re screwed. Right now; no matter what you say or do won’t matter to her. Best thing you can do is just let her go. What about the kid’s, who gets them? Unless you want to loose everything else you should tell her to get out now, don’t wait! You’ll go nuts knowing that she is living with you and screwing some other guy. Tell her to get out, at least then you can get her for abandonment if it comes down to that. You need to start to prepare yourself for the worse.

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