Can his soon to be ex wife stop the divorce?
My boyfriend is going through his last stages of his divorce. His soon to be ex, and him had no children or house together, and he pretty much paid for everything during their 5 year marriage. She got a settlement people would be envoiouse off.
All of a sudden he gets an email from her, stating that she wants £3000 as she is in dept and has rung the courts to put a hold on the divorce until she gets it! can she do this?
My boyfriend is wanting to pay her just to get rid. i say no as if she knows she can do this, whos saying 2 weeks later she wont ask for more money. she has just got a huge pay off and drives round in a £20,000 car! she cant be in that much debt.
also she isnt his problem anymore, if she wants to get in debt then get a loan like everyone else or sell you sodding car, or best still go to your parents! not your ex husband!!
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next time get her to email or write her requests to him, than take this to his lawyer.
Ok not sure about where you live or the laws there but here they can do a divorce without one of the party even present. If they have been notified of the time and place for the final ruling thats all that needs to be done. Your BF could go and get it settled even if she refuses to go or agree to it.
And yes he needs to think and know its time to back off from this woman she is not his anything anymore and if he pays her she will just keep wanting more forever!
He needs to contact his solicitor to find out the answer to this question. I doubt that a party can just ring up the court and put the case on hold.
Giving in to blackmail just encourages her to do so again in the future.
Yes Hun, she can put a hold on the divorce for as long as she wants to play games…. As for the money I’m not sure.
There are factors that may help her get him to have to pay for some of the bills. However, any bill that she aquired after the seperation she is totally responsible for. It will be up the your bf to let his attorney know what she is up to and to let him know that he will not take the responsibility of her bills after the seperation date.
Unless you live in a place that the man is responsible for the woman till she remarries, allimony is awarded. Yet you say that she got a settlement from him already. Was that through the attorney and courts? If it was, then that will be all that she is allowed and will have to stand on her own feet, not his.
Take this question with him to his attorney in the matter and let the legal system try to work for him. He is already paying someone to take care of things like that, let him/her earn the money that they are being paid.
Good luck!
I am sorry to tell you this but yes she can stop the proceedings. My divorce was final last week. And when we were both in court, the judge asked me if I agree. I told her no, that there was still some medical expenses that needed to be taken care of. Now this debt was done during our separation. The judge called a recess and my ex husband, me and his lawyer went into the other room, and we didn’t leave until my ex agreed upon giving me something to put 2wards the debt. And he did. My point is yes she can, if this was made when they were married, or separated she defiantly has the right to get what is hers.
IN THE EYE OF THE LAW SHE IS HIS WIFE UNTIL THE FINAL DECREE PAPERS ARE SIGNED. SHE SHOULD ASK FOR ALL SHE WANT IN THE SETTLEMENT OF THE DIVORCE, AND AS FAR AS YOU THIS IS BETWEEN THEM YOU HAVE NO SAY SO ARE PART IN IT. HOPEFULLY THEY WORK THIS OUT BEFORE IT GOES THRU ARE LEAVE EACH OTHER ALONG BEFORE SOMEONE GET HURT THAT CAR HAS YOU BUGGIN JEALOUS IS A UGLY WORD AND REALLY NOT BECOMMING IF YOU PLAN ON BEING HIS WIFE WAIT GOOD THINGS COME TO THOSE WHO WAIT
Well well – Sounds like she is playing games. I don’t know what state you are in but in most states – debt is shared between spouses.
As far as delaying the divorce – yes she can do that and so can he.
If he doesn’t already have one – he should get a lawyer. If she is aware of you though, she is probably very anger and will do anything to "punish him.
Be very careful is my advice to you – divorce is very ugly sometimes and a significant other in the picture before the divorce is final 99% of the time makes it worse.
If you really love him – you might want to back out of hte picture for a little while and let the flames settle.
He should tell her yes he will give her the 3 grand when she signs the divorce papers first. Then hand her an envelope once he has those papers in his hands. Have the envelope filled with Monopoly play money and a note informing her she never said if she wanted real money and this is the best he can do.
He needs to get to his lawyer (solicitor)and have him make it clear that they will finish as agreed or all bets are off and they will renegotiate. If that does not do it its time to get ugly and string her out with no money until the debt collectors are nipping at her heels.
He needs to get a lawyer, and get it finalised as quick as possible. She can keep asking for more and more, making it as hard as possible to get the divorce finalised, but if he has a good lawyer, he should be able to get out of having to give her anymore money than he already has and just get it over with and be done with it.