can counseling really save your marriage or waste of time and money?
posted Tuesday,
4:13 pm
My husband and I have been married for a year but been together for almost 7yrs. Throughout it all he has cheated on me numerous times and i stay because of the obvious "LOVE". And of course its happening again but the huge difference is we are married and I took my vows to heart. Im clueless and heartbroken any advice.
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Sometimes marriage counseling can help, but if your husband has cheated many times I don’t see how it would. I would put that money into filing for divorce.
Why do you want to stay with someone that isn’t true to you? I think you should go to your own therapist and get your head straight. You may have been serious about your vows but you married a cheater and a liar…
I do not believe in counseling, if a couple cant work out their own problems then they have some deeper issues.
Why would you even want to save something this bad anyways, unless you like being sheated on and being treated like this?
Counseling can work IF you are both committed, but from the sounds of it, your husband doesn’t care about you or your marriage. If he cared, he wouldn’t cheat repeatedly.
Counseling can work. You both have to be on the same accord in wanting the marriage to work. Your first step to recovery is "forgiving and forgetting".
Obviously you value your Love, however, your husband has big issues that say volumes about his love for you. Since he has done it numerous times you really need to ask yourself why would you waste your love on someone who is not returning it, and if you think he is your so mistaken…there are men whom value a women is strong morals and understand the meaning of love. It took my spouse one affair to find that out about me….I believe in my vows and take them serious, she on the other hand did not and she found herself out the door after 20+ years of marriage. You have to ask yourself, is this what kind of marriage you deserve ?
I started counseling 2 months ago and would probably be filing for divorce by now if we had not started when we did. We have been able to work wonders in our relationship. It is imperfect, but we each have a great deal of hope and confidence now.
Couselling is a waste in your case. In other caselike communication it can be beneficial.
**I AM IN THE PLAYPEN WITH MILDRED**
If two people are totally willing to work out their differences..issues..then counseling will work..but if one party isn’t really into resolving their marriage issues..counseling will not work..if some one keeps cheating on you..that is saying something..on their part..then one can either put up with it..or divorce
been there and done that myself but just because you take your vows to heart doesn’t mean he did if he is a cheater then LET him GO