My wife got pregnant on our honeymoon and she could give birth any day now. She kinda woke up a month or so into the pregnancy/marriage and didn’t really have feelings for me anymore, the quality of our marriage started to go down. No cuddling, eventually no kissing, 2 months into marriage she stopped sleeping in the same bed, and stopped saying she loved me and started to get irritated by me and started to become critical. Marriage counseling helped a great deal but eventually couldn’t fill the void in her heart, the psyciatrist got her a safer medication replacement for anxiety but it’s a low dosage and I’m hoping she’ll either get on a higher dosage or back on her Paxil like before. But eventually she made a decision to get into a divorce a month after the baby is born. Her only real reason for me is that she doesn’t feel she loves me. Big reason I know… I currently am just trying to give her space and take care of everthing being that she didn’t qualify for an appartmant and cant really get a job right now. I stil love her after all of this and I’m just waiting for the baby to come but Ireally don’t know what to do. Right now theres really no reasoning with her. It’s crazy though cause just like me our family and our friends don’t really see why it cant work out I mean we went on a 3 day camping trip that went awesome and family called my mom after our recent baby shower and they were like are they back togeter cause they thought we got along really well and her family is actuall yreally upset with her decision to divorce me, and we actually really do get along well, I just wish she felt like she loved me. But I know I can’t really make someone do that.

We’ve been separated for 3 years… mostly my doing, but i’ve been open to counseling many times and have initiated it over the past 6 months… but he doesn’t believe in it. I know he doesn’t have a girlfriend and he still says that i’m the love of his life….. but too much time has passed and too much has been done and said, so the only way he could move on is through divorce. I don’t agree, and do not want a divorce, i have told him many times i want to work on "us" and reunite our family. I invite him over all the time for dinner and to hang out… sometimes he comes, other times he stews in his apartment. Obviously i’m doing something wrong and i don’t know what to do. I’ve learned alot and i’ve made alot of mistakes but i’m looking to move forward w/him. I tell him all the time. Any serious suggestions?

From some of the answers I have seen it seems that a judge would most likely allow 50/50 living arrangments. What rights does the father have in a joint custody situation to stop the mother from moving out of state. Would a court stop her?

My wife keeps spending money even though she knows I want to leave and get a divorce. She was in charge of the finances (While I worked) and failed to pay our morgage for many months and now we are behind. I am now in charge and getting the bills paid, but she keeps borrowing thousands from our friends, which I feel obligated to repay. I make enough to get on my own so we can afford to seperate, but she acts like there is a bottomless pit and I WANT OUT OF THIS RELATIONSHIP! The details on how bad the relationship aren’t important. I basically want to know what I can do so that her debts don’t become my debts till I can afford a divorce. Is there anything that can be done? I want to clear all the debt before I get a divorce.. mainly catch up with the morgage so that we can keep the house for our kids to live in. I want a secure place for our kids to live in so this is important to me. How can I get her to stop spending, borrowing, etc., or get our credit seperated until the divorce?
I’m afraid she will take off to another state with the kids. I love my kids and couldn’t bear to have them away from me. I don’t talk down about her to the kids, but I am afraid of what she would say to them about me. They have already seen to much, including her hitting me. This is out of hand. I can not afford to leave until the morgage is caught up (in a month or two), and then I can get out on my own. I would like for her and the kids to stay in the house so I know they are taken care of and in a familiar environment for this transition. I plan on continuing to pay for the house. I don’t want my kids in some unknown place barely scraping by with their needs unmet. I want to take care of my kids, but I want to be able to seperate and get out on my own. She does work but barely. She has been a stay at home mom for 12+ years, so I know there will probably be alimony involved. She has only worked for about 4 months or so since we were married. Any more suggestions? TIA.
Oh.. and there are other debts that I am taking care of besides the mortgage, so if I take off on my own, even if the mortgage company works out a payment plan (which we are already doing), then if I fail to pay these other debts we could lose the house. As far as her paying half for house payments.. well.. I thought I mentioned she has a spending problem. I hightly doubt her half would get paid. I want security for my kids. She has already threatened to take them far away. I want to have my kids in my life. She has already asked me how she is going to live if we seperate; which means she is just looking at the money aspect. Even if she remarries, I still want to support and take care of my kids. Just want to know how to get our finances seperated as soon as possible. So far Tina’s and 2Beagles answers seem to make the most sense for me. Keep em comin’. Thanks

This is really hard for me, so please dont be harsh. I have been married for just over a year now. We have a daughter together and i have a 6 y/o girl as well, she calls him daddy. i cant seem to control myself. its not like i’m sleeping with ever man i see. but i have slept with my ex 2 times and a guy i knew in high school. i cant seem to stop and i dont want to hurt my husband. he doesnt know, but i feel i’m still hurting him. i know this is not good for our children. i am aware that i’m not the best mother, doing this with kids involved. in ever other aspect of parenting i am great. i dont want to hurt anyone, but i know i will not be able to stop. i have always been this way. i thought being married would force me to stop but it hasnt. my husband hasnt done anything wrong really, but we just dont click to begin with. how to i tell him i want a divorce w/o telling him about my cheating. i want this to go smooth for my girls…please help!!!!